Far and Away

[Owlunar]

Hi @Zoe7 

I am sorry to hear about your mother - I certainly hope things have improved over the last couple of days - and you are right - your real-life family is your priorty right now

You are in my thoughts - I wish your whole family the best and hope things improve - I will be watching for news when you are clear to send it

Dec

[Anastasia]

Thinking of you @Zoe7 🙏💕

Hello and hugs @Owlunar @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @Snowie @bipolarbunny @Emelia8 all here 🌷

[Owlunar]

Hi @Anastasia 

I understand only too well the difficulties in trying to get therapeutic help for your son - I have been there as you know - and what can you do?

I hear that your anxiety is sky-high - that is your first issue I think - try and ease your own mind about this - and I do know the risks involved with troubled young men. Only too well

My son would not comply with psychiatric help - he was too young really. I am sure your son is older - mine was in his teens - still - when then is a path of non-compliance then the path is so much more difficult.

I know what you fear - and you have been paying a lot of money - going up to five hundred - wow - and you have conflict with your bf - sometimes you have to take the initative alone on this - and what your son thinks and wants has to be included - if that helps - most likely it doesn't

Ooh - I would not like to visit that time of my life again so I really feel for you

You are certainly in my thoughts

Dec

[Owlunar]

@Emelia8 

Hi Em - I see you are here and being supportive - which is great to see - keep it up - I know you are there and battling away - is there any other way to face life? It would be easier but - wow - I understand

When I was first separated I had a year in the old house - going to work and university and selling the house - so I was pretty busy - and my first year in my own place was when the difference really set in and I felt the loneliness of it - and this - with your grief and your spinal pain and your battle with cancer - and yes - the lock-down - wherever it is at  - all of this really tests the spirits

What I feel like concentrating on is the new life of being alone. I know  you have lost your protector and this has to be hard - he was also your tormentor - so there has to be conflict. You are free to live life as you choose now and this has to be a culture-shock

Sorting though your emotions is like a puzzle - and I am sure some times it seems like a muddle. One thing crowds another - and learning to live life alone is something that provokes deep feelings.

I really don't have much to suggest - I think I chose to like it - whatever though - eventually and now I do like it. I think of you often and how you are okay - just that - I know that feeling really well is probably a long way off and still - I wish that for you

I think of you - as I said - and hope a better future comes quickly

Dec

[Appleblossom]

@Owlunar Good to see you. Its been a while.

Hugs

@bipolarbunny @bipolarbunny @Anastasia @Faith-and-Hope @Emelia8 @Zoe7 

I gotta get this bod off the couch.

[Appleblossom]

I might be quoting this out of context, but I had lots of interesting diagrams come up from another discussion on transference and the therapeutic alliance.

This one ... perhaps ought be focussed on "readiness" rather than appropriateness.  The word appropriate can get over used.  If the focus is on readiness, there may be more success in preparing people to get the best out of their therapy.  Labelling clients inappropriate just adds to stigma.  Somehow we have lost the ability to calm people down.

Just sharing to discuss if you are interested.

@Faith-and-Hope @Owlunar @bipolarbunny @bipolarbunny @Snowie @Anastasia and all ...

I had an exceptionally strong need to merge with idealised others.  It has taken my whole adult life to figure that one out!

[Faith-and-Hope]

It is interesting @Appleblossom !  I am glad you have been working out how to relate, even the fact that you are exchanging 'readiness' for 'appropriateness'.

Just want to say hi to @Clawde as well .... 👋💕

❤️🦋 @Zoe7  ..... I hope things are improving for your Mum.

[Snowie]

Good morning @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @Owlunar @Anastasia @bipolarbunny 

and anyone else around. Hoping your day goes well for you all.

@Zoe7 special shout out hon, hoping your mum is going better. Please look after yourself too through all of this,

Lots and lots of love and hugs 💗💗💗💗💗

[Owlunar]

Hi @Appleblossom 

It is good to be back - I needed time out and still I missed everyone. Priorities - priorities

I agree that giving people labels stigmatizes people - everyone is still the same person they were before their diagnosis - yet people are often thrown by what they learn - and it is after all only a professional opinion needed to transfer their therapits thoughts to another professional person,

And don't we label ourselves regardless - oh dear -  whether that is a good idea or not has to be debatable - we are human and therefores all have some kind of disorder to be different. 

We need to have a sense of humour about ourselves - and be kind to ourselves. We can always improve ourselves after all.

But the Disorders we are given can change our lives - how many people are trapped in their disorder? Would they have gone on with more ethusiasm with life had they never learned this?

se names after all - if we don't like our name we can change it. Do our names ever define us? I hope not

Still the medical profession needs to diagnose us. If every state end with Disorder that has to be negative - more to some people than others

My stars - it has started to rain here with heavy hail and thunder - I have an outing today - dental appointment - how disappointing. Haha

Dec

[Owlunar]

Hi @Zoe7 

I'm sending my best thoughts about your mother too. This is not an easy time for your family.

And yes - your family is your top priority right now but please care for yourself too

Dec