Depression Dementia Dad

[Owlunar]

Hi @Appleblossom@Former-Member@outlander

I hope things go well at the dentist Apple - I hope a night guard does the trick for you

Outlander - feeling bushed means really tired and/or lost - and Lapses - I feel bushed myself right now and think I need a nap

I hope all of you are feeling okay or as near to okay as possible

Dec

[Faith-and-Hope]

❤️ @Former-Member it does sound like a really hard day.

You have plenty more to offer.  Move closer to where your son is when you leave your Dad’s and your house is sold maybe ..... around an hour’s drive away ..... and find yourself a lovely church community to be involved with.   He is in a different stage of life at the moment where he needs to feel he can make it on his own, but his life will change too, and hopefully there is a relationship and maybe children in his future, which is when they gravitate more to family usually.  He will be very glad to have you around.

[Former-Member]

Maybe Faith-and-hope, I'm trying to findxa plan, just so tired of remaking myself. My son itls talking about moving to Melbourne, NZ andchopes to get a years working holiday in Germany or Finland. Nothing is stable for me. I don't know what yo do. And maybe I'm here to sort that out while I sell up.

Dad just accidently rang 000 trying to use the phone, so embarrassing.

Can hear him going to bed, he needs assist to change so Tootles.

Hi @Wenna, I want to disgiss this by email

Hiya @Owlunar, hope you're OK xox

[Appleblossom]

Its funny when the cats out of the bag and you find people do care. We do @Former-Member

We cannot do anything about your family, but suggest that the act of ending is different to the staying the best way you can.

I feel rejection and loneliness a great deal. I keep on stepping forward and a plan is beginning to open in front of me, that is NOT one of those plans.  I have not got a lot of energy or interest in reinventing myself.  It seems to involve taking a small turn, being willing to learn and be open.

Maybe you needed to finish with that house.  Maybe you can buy a smaller place ... easier to maintain.  I agree with @Faith-and-Hope I was a little wary about you giving away the money from the house sale.  I feel I dont deserve to have my house a lot, and that is also implied by many.  At least my 2 older psychologists are on side now, but it took about 4 years for them to understand my situation and charcter.

I was very low last night and this morning, but I had a good day.  Great music, food and conversation.

Take Care

Apple

Ha ha ... Champion Grinder @Owlunar  Thats me too

... if you are gonna do it ... do it well ...lol

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Appleblossom. I often wonder how you will manage when your son leaves home. Maybe works extra hard at cutting the apron strings like mine has. Sometimes its so hard. I have faith that God loves me x1000,000,000... ... More than any who reject me or care here on earth, and a try meditate His light into the voids that hurt so much here, but I am a flay pot, with cracks, and I don't hold it all too well. Sounds like you're the closest to knowing how I feel. 

[Former-Member]

@Owlunar, are you cranky with me? Dad got a good flyer from dva yesterday about Osteoporosis, might copy it & post here for you. I'm hurting a lot tonight the back. Your perseverance keeps me going when it cones to pain.
LapsesTawn

[outlander]

@Former-Member 💖 hugs for your pain and struggles 💜

[Appleblossom]

@Former-Member I have long felt quite close to you ... for many reasons. 

My son is currently negotiating his transition to independent living.  I am putting all those things out on the table.  He is making plans and directions and time scales.  So that is good. Never wanted him on my apron strings. Not my style. He does not have certain freedoms like many young men, so it is harder. I was feeling skin to @Faith-and-Hope with her and daughter in same field.  Sometimes thats the way it works out.  Was not my intention. We both want it to happen in the best way possible.  

[Former-Member]

Sending up a few extra for you @Former-Member

[Former-Member]

Oh dear, in lala land today, didn't hlget to sleep 'till after 4am, then up 7am for nurse for dad, back to bed and up for b'fast... Couldn't sleep much with all the thoughts of what to do with no home to fall back on.  Although I feel dying is an option, it may not be the best so I'm exploring alternatives. Not sure what thread to take those details. 

Numb and paralysed today, but at least I got meals and washing done.

Bro4 dropped by - gave me his rego papers to pay for him. He's so hard up every week, and cause i wont give him $ he goes on about the 1,400 gift he gave each of us when he sold his first & only home 10yrs ago. Anyway, sick of it so offered to give it backback to him if the house sale goes through. He's already hit me up for it re needs help with rego... I donno, i feel had. And after i made him a cuppacuppa, already feeling so tired,  he grimmiced with toot ache, andand he burped and farted and couldnt stay long and couldn't change a lightbulb for us before leaving.  I just feel so drained emotionally.

Dad seems ok as can be, just went to bed forfor a rare arvo kip (like me).  Set IP a clock I found for him at the OP shop. It displays the date and day as well as time. He asked me many timestimes in one day -  'what's today"  as he tried to make sence of his desk calendar with apts listed