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Aw @eth

I am so sorry -

You had a child that lost their vision - who would be 28 now - and then 10 years later - a still-birth - have I got that right?

Before I started my family I had two of my girl friends have still births and my aunt had a premmie who lived two days - and my mother told me at the time my cousin would have been blind

I was so cut up with all of this - I was miscarrying (several times)  And the  things people say - I know I am over the miscarriages -

In reallity - we all face and endure and grow through these experiences differently. There's no right nor wrong - we feel what we feel

And yes - I agree that having your child lose their vision would be a cause for grief - you may grieve it more than your child - who has never known life any other way

It's years, lots of years, a decade - add the decades - and it still hurts, it still brings tears - I know this - I really do

And I care🎉

Decadian