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apologies @Former-Member 

I had included a reply for you in my first attempt that I then decided to delete.

I posted the next attempt only addressing Appleblossom.

Grief is so very hard and so very different for all.

How it affects us short and long term as well as how we deal or are unable to deal with it.

Knowing that it is actually grief is a huge step in finding some sense of reality.

Some people never even get that far and choose to think that they have moved on in their terminology.

I am not sure about time and healing.

I feel more about acknowledging it, even nurturing that part of us as it is so very real and tender.

I have found, telling myself that my grief is still with me and always will be helps me.

At the same time, as I tell myself this the intensity differs. I hold it within myself differently.

For me it will always be there.

I carry it with me as it is a part of me that was pure love, whether it was love for myself or for another. It was still as part of me.

I still have pain, moments of heartache; not as often nor lasting as long. 

I still know that the original love cannot  be taken from me as grief is loss, something taken from us.

Perhaps I have just grabbed my love back..

Very deep I  know.

Grief is deep also.

I hope that this might help in some minor way.

If not, I am happy to delete the response.