Hello @Appleblossom
Your response was full of feeling I thought....
Our growing up was a parallel to a certain degree...
I too was not allowed to express emotion...or have any emotions expressed towards me....silence was more popular in our house...or conversation at prescribed times....my mum and dad loved us though...
my dad lost his mum when he was 18 and his dad when he was 26...The same year he came out of the airforce after the war.
my mum stayed at home with her mum whilst her dad went off in the army....her brother went off in the army and her sister joined the women's land army in UK. So mum was at home a young girl with her mum during the bombings....
It is the generation....Of course now there are more sufferers over in other countries...another subject ...ongoing suffering in the world...
I too grew up as a quiet softly spoken girl....I stood up against bullies though....Once I started work....I eventually pushed through my embarrassment...my red face and ignored the racism and sexual harrassment at work....I found confidence in speaking with clients...
I have always had determination and perseverance....the females in my family ...my mum...my sister and myself are all determined and persevere in our very different ways....
my mum who now does not talk to me lives with more intense anxiety...I am too confrontational for her with my expression of feelings...my not giving up on my "family member"...it is fear that stops her accepting the situation....fear that makes her push me away....I acknowledge this and am learning to forgive her...
Yes I agree with you in standing up to the system....I have and still do this myself....
my own "family member" mistreated...
I do not think that you are dominant appleblossom...I think that you have your own style as I said before....
You could have chosen to be offended by my response to you as some would have done...chosen to respond defensively..
you did not though...
I felt safe in explaining myself to you knowing that you can speak for yourself and do not need to be defended..
In fact the people I respect most in my life are not clones of who I am...they are true to themselves...
Thank you for your honesty and accepting my words with the intent that was meant..
I do not need to be liked by everyone either....
