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I really like what you have said about forgiveness @Faith-and-Hope - it's such a hard concept to explain - to define - to ask for - to accept

I had a councellor way back who struggled with what forgiveness meant - it was a long time ago - I think my mind was open to the challenge and our lives went different ways - as happens - and I have never been able to tell her what I found for myself - that forgiveness is everything to do with ourselves and nothing much about that other person

Art is not my strong point but I did a sketch once of my mother sitting in a "huff-for-her-to-go-off-in" similar to a sketch my ex-h did - with my mother sitting on a toilet driving this vehicle with a long train of trucks with bundles of stuff labelled - "Spoilt Christmases" - "Missed Oportunities" - "Terrible Fears" - "Wonderful Grudges" etc - I wish I hadn't lost it - or tossed it - it really freed my mind of the terrible state of mind my mother lived in all her life - sigh 

Over time it all went away - and important thought here for @Bubbles3 - the person we (insert required verb) to forgive doesn't care but they live with all those rotten ideas, never thinking about them - just wading knee-deep, waist-deep, totally over-their-head deep and never know the better life we seek and sometimes find

I love it that you put in so many Likes Faith - it lets me know you are reading and when you do comment - wow - you say a lot

Still thinking - still praying - loves of faith and hope and consider how hard it must be that your WH can't have a dx until he is ready - oh boy - I really do care and pray eventually the dawn will break for him

But that might be a tough time too

All the best Faith

Dec