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Hi @utopia

I am glad you have had some positive moments- they snuck up on you hey - oh wow

But they are sending you home - without a plan - it doesn't seem enough and deep down inside I feel a terrible sorrow - and not just for you -  but for all the people caught in the system that is failing people who need the help - you were injured at work in some way and it seems to me that it lacks insult to injury that you can't have more time in hospital

About your son - I hear what you are saying - I did indeed have similar thoughts with my son - there were times when I wanted to hand him back - but of course - that didn't happen - it was the worst of my times when that occurred and no - it's not terrible - it is the way it is - you are not up for the hardest job in the world - being a mother - we get no training for that one - no work-cover - no weekends - no holidays - no sick pay - in fact no pay - no time out and pretty few compliments

Your Mum sounds great though - she has stepped up to the mat

So - yes - you do have someone understanding this

I think your son might be old enough to understand if you sit with him and tell him that you need this time because you are ill - and no one can see your illness but it is real - just as pain can't be seen but is real. Let him know it is not his fault - being a parent is hard work and right now - you can't

You can't drink any more alcohol - that is a fact - I would not blame you in anyway - but that is it - it sends you off into a worse place - but have they given you any help with de-toxing or are you supposed to handle this yourself? Do you go to AA? I am on your side and hate asking this - but without judgment at all - it seems tough to have to stop that - but stop it you must

Where is the help that would help you? How I wish I really had something useful to say

Lots of virtual hugs

Dec