Thanks @Zoe7
I think I made myself plain with my daughter - I put up a boundary - I never have done this in her case. I will maintain it - I sometimes wonder where her sulkiness comes from but then - there's my mother
I wrote to my parents - I forget when - during the 90s - and had the letter vetted by my psychologist - it was a good one. It was not well received however and it was some time before I was allowed back in the family. Dad wanted me to come to his 80th birthday and most of the famiy was there - it was a good day
But my mother never gave up her position - I think she never understood the child with the spirit I was born with - her loss - her regrets - I am sorry she died with such regret but after all - she did cherish her grudges
Perhaps I am the person I have become because of her spite. Who knows? - I survived her and it was not a competition but rather - I had to find my feet in a strange family. I was always accepted by my father's family however though I rarely have contact except with my youngest cousin who lives in Canada.
My Hobart relatives are seriously ill - my aunt has pancreatic cancer - my cousin will be giving me more details after he has had phone contact - I wish I could fly there - my health is improving but I am still not 100% - I would have two quarantine for 2 weeks and I will be having my booster in a couple of weeks. It's a bit weird but weird is what it is
Thanks again @Zoe7 - you are a very wise person and I appreciate that
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