I dont know how much longer i can go on like this

[Former-Member]

Bye @outlander, take it easy at work

Watch out for those evil grasshoppers!!!

[outlander]

lol thats just mean 😉 @Former-Member

can i ask you guys something in regards to work? @Former-Member@Sans911@Faith-and-Hope@Zoe7 (i ask you guys as we spoke about it before)

[Zoe7]

What is your question @outlander?

[outlander]

 when we last spoke as in you and i, we talked about dropping down to the 4 days per week. it was going well for abit  until xmas come and the rush for everyones holidays come around so im back up to the 7 days a week- i dont know where ive been but its slowly packed back up without me really realising it and im back to full time once again. 

because its not 'on the books' its not documented down anywhere. i dont get sick leave, holiday leave or anything like that its just work the days and the chores and get paid for those.  i dont have assigned times which is good as i can go and do it when i please as long as it gets done each day. its taking me hrs sometimes the entire day to get through it all when its only suppose to be part time.

im constantly getting calls and text msgs all hrs of the day and often the night asking about their horses, and feeding and feed orders and whatever else you can think of, if i attend any emergencies for either horse or rider (i dont expect it) but i dont get paid but im quite often expected to drop everything and attend that incident.  besides the calls and texts, the past 2 days i went to just 'be' with my horse and to take a breather from babysitting, and everything going on at home and i literally got bombared with people wanting me for something. i couldnt jsut 'be' i ended up talking for ages explaing this and that and trying to accomdate what they were asking when all i wanted to do was sit for 10 minutes in peace. 

like now its nearly 9pm and im still dealing with clients.  and even when im on part time- which will go back after the end of january on my so called days off im still dealing with clients and all the rest. 

so i guess really my question is how do i leave that job for the allocated times sort of thing??  like spearating home from work??. i want to be able to come home, focus on pop, or just sit for 5 minutes with my horse and not get 10 thousand questions by heaps of people. 

the other part is-i wasnt bothered till someone pointed it out- but on fb (i dont have fb anymore) people are saying what a good job my boss is doing looking after the horses, and how safe the place is and all the rest and she is literally taking all the credit yet shes on holidays, literally all shes doing and has done even when im on part time is making sure the bills are paid (which i know isnt easy) but still. now it is bothering me abit- i dont expect credit but when shes on holidays and im doing all of it and even on part time im still working behind the scenes and shes taking all the credit i think its a little bit rough. 

how do i 'let it go'?

@Zoe7and everyone

[Zoe7]

The first thing you need to do is set some boundaries with clients @outlander. It is not your responsibility to be 'on call' all hours of the day and night - no matter how 'accommodating' you feel you should be. Have set times that you can be contacted - maybe make up a roster for each day showing times you can be contacted and post at work. Outside of those times you DON'T answer the phone or even read texts from any clients - only do that in the allocated times you have set for yourself - no questions asked - even divert incoming calls to messagebank outside of those allocated times.

Next - and this is the hardest one - don't go to be with your horse when you need time out from home - as much as you love your horse - for now you need to distance yourself from work when you are not working. This will not be a long-term thing - once clients 'get the message' you will be able to gradually start spending more time just with your horse.

As for your boss 'taking credit' for the work you have done - that you have to let go - it isn't fair or respectful but it is not something you can control either. You know the work you do and take pride in the fact that you are doing a good job - even if it isn't being directly recognised because indirectly it is.

Does that answer you questions enough @outlander?

[outlander]

Ill be back on later got a whopping headache brewing so am logging off so can get a hold of it. Will be back though and i appreciate your time to write ❤ @Zoe7

[Zoe7]

ok @outlander 

[Former-Member]

sorry hun @outlander just logged back on then. 

[Former-Member]

Hi @outlander hope all is ok today. Just dropping these off for you sis 

[outlander]

thanks @Former-Member they are really beautiful