Baby news

[BlueBay]

@Former-Member @Former-Member @Shaz51 @Owlunar @outlander 

Thank you for the lovely pics and messages. It means so much to me to have you guys here with me celebrating and waiting for the birth of this little baby 

You will all be part of my family.  You have all shared so much of my journey, one that most of it has been tough and emotional; but the next part I hope will be a beautiful journey.

Oh by the way @Former-Member need your advice and others too pls:

What should I do:

My sister has told my mum that my daughter is pregnant and her reaction has been very differrent to how I had expected it to be.  It was an 'oh really'.  Not a 'OMG is she married, is she engaged, etc etc etc" how dare she, blah blah blah.

now i am worried that she will want to see me so she can see this new great-grandchild. And what if she does? this is a huge scenario playing on my mind.  @Owlunar you probably realised that something was wrong with me lately, so much stress. well here it is.

any advice, what should i do? 

I don't want to run back to my mum like i did last time and cop the abuse verbally and emotionally again, no way.  and she needs to apologise to me first before anythin else.  she needs to say sorry, i need to heear those words ...... but i am still scared. a scared little girl.  

[Former-Member]

@BlueBay, mmothers like ours rarely say sorry. I find the only way forward is to sever that expectation that they owe you and make a fresh start, rebuilding trust will be slow, and things will never be the same, but its worth a try (with healthy boundaries).  Do avoid talking, or even thinking about the past issues around your mum or it will sabatage healing. Keep time short.  I remember not long ago you were really missing your dad. This is the perfect opportunity for making peace. Babies do that 🙂 amazing isn't it. I'm so hopeful things will change for the better for you in many areas of your life. Remember, being your own best friend is more powerful than anything they have to offer. Hope this makes sense. Stay strong BlueBay, you're doing so well 💜💕 

[Former-Member]

Hi @BlueBay

Sorry I've just seen this now it's been a busy day! I will come past tomorrow morning and respond to you properly, just wanted to let you know that I've seen this and will chat to you then.

I hope you have a restful night and will 'see' you around then

[BlueBay]

Thanks @Former-Member

looking forward to chatting with you.  I also wrote more about this topic (on my mum) on my other post (not feeling good) so maybe read that first if you want.

[Former-Member]

nawwwww!! a baby girl 🙂 That is so exciting to know! oooh i can imagine the things that you will be noticing more now, little dresses and cute little outfits! Girls are a lot of fun to shop for! I found that the range for boys was so limited! though could also have been my country area too!

Hugs, i can see that there are new worries now, and i havent got any good ideas on how to manage them, but thinking of you @BlueBay

[Former-Member]

Hi @BlueBay,

Just reading through your posts, I will reply in your other thread so this thread can stay on happy baby stuff

I'm with @Former-Member, shopping for girls is so much fun! There are so many cute little outfits that you can get and I'm now getting really excited about this and its not even happening to me!

[outlander]

@BlueBay soo excited for you

hows your daughter and bub and father to be travelling?

[BlueBay]

Hi @outlander@Former-Member@Former-Member@Former-Member@Shaz51@utopia@Owlunar @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7

Yesterday while packing boxes I found a box which had some baby clothes that were my daughters.  5 little pink dresses, a little knitted cardigan, and a  few other little outfits.  they were all in good condition.  so i grabbed and my daughter and i looked at them and laughed andn talked.  i decided to soak them overnight and this morning i washed them and hung them out on the line.  you should see them, one line is full of little pink baby clothes.  Oh how it brings back memories!!! 

then we found her little doll's pram that we kept.  i said to her gee we can put the baby in that.  she laughed.  oh we also found a dress that she wore for a photo shoot we did.  so she had an idea that when the baby is old enough to sit up we will do a photo shoot in the same dress and then put the photos together.  i still have that photo of my daufhter in that dress!!!!  How cool is that.

[outlander]

Thats awesome @BlueBay she really is a forum baby and has so much love her as well as off here.

My mum has a pic of me when i was a baby in a certain dress and both of my sisters in the same dress the only difference in thr dress pic is that it had a headpiece to start with but by the time my sisters came along it was lost but at least we were sll in the same original dress

[Former-Member]

Hi @BlueBay,

That is amazing!! I love it when you find old things like this, especially baby clothes. I can imagine how seeing all the clothes on the line took you back. Much more of this to come

What a good idea your daughter had about doing a photoshoot of the baby in the same dress! That would be the most precious thing. You will be able to put a photo of your granddaughter in a frame next to the one of your daughter

It sounds like this was a great highlight of your weekend