Living with Ourselves

[Owlunar]

Hi @Sophia1

I think I know something of what you are talking about - I think you have mentioned this before but I am not sure - that it is a cousin or other relative of yours who is battling demons and yes - you can only listen  and reassure - going to university is a huge step but the - 

You can suggest - I know when I started university I did two subjects and only thought of that year - and then - that semestre and then - that week - and life went on as it always does and one piece at a time and I graduated 

So it is possible - but how fears and uncertainties stand up and scare -  how this can distract from the main goal - yes - I get that - 

But universities have counselling services and I had a lot of help from the counsellors - my journey through university was not peaceful nor easy but worth it

I can only share this - I can hear you - being gentle with your person and listening and reflecting back what you hear - that is so important - a person may not know what they are saying until they hear a person repeat it and then - wow - it is no longer in their head - it's out in the air - perhaps it is not as scary then

Post when you can - I will tag you - this is a really busy time of life for you and uncertain - I get that

My thoughts are with you

Dec

[Maggie]

Welcome home @Sophia1 I hope the move went okishhhh!!!!!

Dropping off some house warming.Rest if you can

[Maggie]

Hope it's going okish @Sophia1

[Sophia1]

hello @Maggie

This picture is very close to one of mine...different colours...

the expression fits perfectly quite often not just during moving laugh...

thank you so much for support

I do hope that things are settling for you now with your move...

I am at the moment in lala land in between property we sold and house we are now renting...

am actually loving the new place with a reasonable size front garden and larger back garden...lawn...aged trees..have no idea what they are but love them..huge shed. with curtains would you believe...two side raised garden beds...one has some vegetables which I am adding to...the other minimal plants...again I am adding..

I am actually starting minimal gardening...although back is not happy...I am...

Do you have a communal garden where you are?   Have you met some neighbours?   discovered communal activities?

or perhaps just settling quietly in your new surroundings.....all or none of these most understandable...

look forward to hearing from you...

take care 

[Sophia1]

Hello @Maggie @Owlunar @Former-Member @eth @Adge @outlander@Exoplanet@eudemonism@Former-Member@TAB@Shaz51@Teej@CheerBear@Sans911@Former-Member@Mazarita@Former-Member@Zoe7@MDT and others whom I might have forgotten

I am back fleetingly during house move...which most of us have probably experienced at some stage in our lives and know how much an upheaval it is not only physically ...mentally....metaphysically also...somewhere in the mix of those I am numb..

Much has been happening...what is new you all say...yes...

Thank you all for your ongoing support...thoughts...likes....having communicated with me at some stage in the last nearly two years since I first arrived...

I am back with "family member" in detainment....deteriorated health...constant communication thank goodness not all coherent sadly...connection is the saving grace here....

cannot find so many things as is the case with moving....my thoughts on that.,..whatever...am unpacking minimal survival needs...as will be doing this again in about 12 months when new home built...

speaking of which builder is extremely busy...

have been thinking about my forum family and knowing that I have that safety net in the background is huge..

so thank you each and everyone of you for being a part of that...

I have probably missed some important members during my time on here....thinking no less of you if your names are not in the forefront of my mind...moreso...mind fog which many of us can relate to ...

you are all doing so well even though you might not think so..

more noticeable when having time away and coming back...realising yet again how much we deal with...the whole world goes on around us thinking that life is hard and many do not have a clue...

not diminishing those who go through atrocities of war or similar ...

so take care all 

way past my bed time....

[Owlunar]

it's past my bedtime too @Sophia1 but I am sending my support

Dec

[MDT]

Thinking of you @Sophia1
Thanks for the tag. I hope you are managing okay enough

[Zoe7]

Thank you for checking in @Sophia1 It is always good to hear from you. It seems that you have been extremely busy with the move and yes I know how draining that can be. I was lucky enough when I moved into my house that I only had to mve around the corner but it still was taxing having to pack and unpack everything to do so.

I am doing ok - a lot happening or beginning to hsppen in regrds to work for me - looks like I will begin that prt of my journey again next term. I don;t know how it is going to go yet but it is something that I want/need to do so will have to see how it goes.

I hope you are managing physically with your pain and not over exerting yourself Hon. I'm sure it is frustrating you with having to limit what you can achieve in the home becuse of your limitations - just do what you can as that is all you can do.

How are the cats settling in?

[Former-Member]

Thanks so much @Sophia1 for the update, always good to hear from you.

Little time for a proper reply right now, but wanted to let you know I am thinking of you.  Remember to make time for some self nurturing as often as possible. With all thats going on for you, its all too easy to lose sight of our own needs. 😀 🌺

Sherry 💕

[TAB]

Thanks for the tag @Sophia1 yes sad re family members but it may also bring release when things come to the crunch. Sorry for trying to read between the lines. I have had lots of dwelling moves over the years some easy through fog of memory and years and some notso. 12mths is long enough to unpack completely for? Anyway I end up in self created chaos when telling self its not a ‘forever’ place re not un packing/settling. Maybe just get rid of some things before moving. Might help loosen attachment to where you were living?