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Hi @BlueBay
The safety gates look really good - as if they can be opened by adults but stop children from getting into the kitchen when cooking is happening - and other places etc - and the children learn the gate is there to keep them inside and safe - but they will test it of course
My daughter knew from a young age that the gate meant she was to stay inside her room - my son was harder to teach but understood that if the gate was there he could have his bedroom door open - otherwise I would close the door - and he was little and called it the "Door Open" - I still laugh thinking about that
I'm glad you have seen your therapist and talked about all that has been happening and your anger - and I wonder - does your anger spring from things happening that are outside of your control and as well meaning as everyone is and how everyone wants things to work out - well - it's all outside your control - maybe inside you feel invaded.
I understand - I really do - people come into your space and people go away - their choices - and that's okay - but do you feel consulted? Do you feel as if you are being used or ignored - I would I think - lately I have had changes happening in my life which are minor most of the time but still - some have been pretty major as well - and I feel unsettled - will the sky fall etc.
I get it - I hear you - you need to make space for yourself and this is hard for you -
And I don't know if these things make physical pain worse but it makes it harder to deal with - this I have found to be true through years of it - when life runs along smoothly it's easier to cope with the pain - hurdles and interuptions and problems make it harder and bursitis in the shoulder is so painful - I get it myself from time to time - so I really feel for you - and alternating heat and ice can help -
I hope your doctor can recommend something - just to give you a break from it or make things easier
Dec
