What 2020 was and what I want from 2021

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hey @Owlunar once again you have hit that nail on the head like always

You know what you said about courage in regards to being afraid and still doing whatever it is - yes I agree with you. I think i have had that experience quite often actually. When I was overseas and even just this past weekend in Adelaide when I was feeling sad or similar.

I also think that you are right about patience - the tank is low. This reminds me of something i wrote this morning on the way to work about my tank of energy being low - patience was the fuel. Maybe i need to change fuel types aye?

Idk @Owlunar my awesome wise friend. Yes I agree - patience ends when those around us with their thoughtlessness crushes our pretty unique things

I always appreciate your insight my friend

[Appleblossom]

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Maybe there is a learning that most people are a bit weird ... another way of saying unique. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZH4ZQH_3_pE 

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@Owlunar I was also taking onboard what the girl I went out with last Monday said. She was very nervous and I believe she was finding excuses for her behaviour and was trying to deflect it on to me. Its hard because I was trying my best with the situation to no avail. But what can you do aye? I can accept that it isn't meant to be, but what I don't like is the games. The nonsense. But idk. It gets to me @Owlunar

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True that @Appleblossom

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Hams , if date didnt want to be there, just do casual/ let it go, or if its that obvious you be first to leave, worst thing could do is 'trying' ask AB @Appleblossom  its not obvious, not intuitive, can be learned though, depends what you take away from it

[Appleblossom]

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An uncle told me "the best defence is a good offence".  After he did a coy fake challenge to my son, when we were at mum's house just after her death.  

I was disgusted, but what could I do, but unpack it a bit with my son.

Being stuck in the trying mode is not a good recipe for success.  Both people should try a bit, and there needs to be some chemistry.

Your gut is telling you to stay away.  Chalk it up to experience and practise a friendly casual attitude if you have to deal with her at work ... or anywhere ... 

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honestly sometimes just need to walk away @Appleblossom  which she possibly did @MDT  if its not working sometimes can pick things up a bit, but if really not happening best to hit eject button for whatever reason. I used to see a fair few people from sites around 10 years ago, i tried to leave out back door once after humoring them for way too long, figured had wasted time and effort going there may as well stay and have a few lol , they had 20 plus year old pic, was complete BS and they confronted me trying to sneak off lol 

..anyway .. usually can tell where things are going before meet then take it from there, had a few never heard from again, dont get stuck on it change site change profile change pics, have a break for few mths whatever Yeah Chronicles .. bet theres a been a few toads in the apple orchard as well lol

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Wont deal with her again @Appleblossom so that's that.

Today at work someone was at the counter from uni and she said I was looking good/well. I'm like... "ok thanks lol"

But yeah dating is hard these days. But worth it i think. All is fair in love and war i guess.

[Appleblossom]

Good you have decided. Hams Being decisive helps. 

I have walked away a bit. @TAB Too many toads and swine. Yep

Not sure I like that saying @MDT Love ought to be a long way from war. Pity its not.  However reality is complicated, and with DV stats and all it is obviously tricky for a lot of people. 

Def worth having a relationship.  When you find person and both are ready.  .

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long gone for me @Appleblossom even 6 years ago was a different world somehow