Life can be a Pain

[Faith-and-Hope]

Lenten fast excludes meat and dairy @Former-Member ... think Vegan plus shellfish / snails / locusts if you like .... lol ... and at times oil is removed as well, which really makes it restrictive.

[Former-Member]

Oh @Faith-and-Hope, pretty diligent that you actually 'live' these customs. My strong pentecostal background spoke against such rituals as 'legalism' but I think their great teaching tools on actually 'living' our faith. Good on you. Maybe someone could start a mixed Easter Thread with all these customs and bunny rabbits and your rainbow choc recipes etc. No me, I have to keep my head down.
Sorry, need to try sleep, have headache etc, so tires from layimgvim bed crying all day, lol, No, really shattered tired but thank you so much for chatting and helping me see reason for living another day. You're a blessing xox Night xox

[Former-Member]

Repost from 2pages back

Hi Dec, just popping over to say hi, you doing OK? I'm wounded today. Wish I could talk openly. Has your back settled? I'll warm a heat pack for both of us. I've Been in bed all day, teary, just hurtful people (and my sensitivity), guess we I can't "be all things to all people" Especially toxic sister types, grr. End of vent.

Sounds like your puttytat might have PTSD!!! or abandonment issues lol aww, poor thing lol. At least you organised dd to come by, I agree a cattety would be stressful but distractions could have helped. Also, just double check there's nothing physical going on there as her bejaviour does serm a bit overthetop. Good idea having claws trimmed.
Just saying hi, avoiding STM (sleeping too much)

You're very quiet all day, probably a good thing, but hope you're OK? Night 😴💤❤

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I have been okay - because of that I have been busy doing other stuff I don't always feel like doing for whatever reason

Vent away whenever you feel like it because life can be a pain - it really can - and the people we call friends - who are they? This is a strange thing in life

Friends would take it in turns to call one another - not leave it up to one person all the time - I get tired of being the one to reach out all the time - so I have learned to get on with myself better I guess

This would be my gift - would that I could package it up and give people - I really wish I could

Things get easier as we get older - the things that bothered us more when we were younger do not bother us nearly as much as the years pass - what do I think about?

Should I get my hair coloured? - how long will my cat live? will it rain on the day I have planned to go out or will I bring the washing in now or later because it might rain today? Nothing here is of great import.

But I have long ceased to worry about what other people are thinking about - but I had a long discussion with the J W today - I knew they were though they did not tell me - or let me know - until nearly the end of the conversation - in fact - I think I intrigued them - we talked about dogma - and here I was sitting at my computer with the screen door between me and them and my gd turned up for lunch

But most days - no one - then my social life of helpers and doctors clinic staff has it's moments

But Easter - ah um - 4 days of nuttin - perhaps I had better take a walk down to my church to have a look at what's happening there. I'll let you know

But I do understand what you are talking about - during the dark years of my life I was heavily involved with my church - yes - for years I put up with the content for the sake of the form - or the other way around  - it was a different church to the one I would go to now

I care about you my friend - but I am catching the last of the lovely autumn days here - I'll try and be here more often

Dec

[Former-Member]

hello @utopia

what a beautiful response. i hope that Dec has a printer and can print this off and hold it next to her heart. keep it in a special place for her. xx

[utopia]

Thank you @Former-Member. I'm guessing you are referring to an older post about her beautiful son.
I wish more people could see the potential in our children.
Thanks again.

[Former-Member]

hello @utopia @Decadian @Former-Member

yes i am referring to your response to Dec opening up and sharing her grief.

we all stumble and wonder how we can respond without further upsetting the person.

I just loved the way you put the words together.

Such lovely ladies.

Tawney you are sensitive at the moment and people need to take that in to consideration. As Dec pointed out my goodness what you have been through recently with your family members. Had to get out of your system eventually.

If anyone is upset with you, it is their reaction not your concern, They own it. You just keep on being the loving, sensitive, caring person who you are. They will come around in their own way when they are ready and see that you are carrying on regardless.

I am very sensitive myself at the moment.

hoping appleblossom is ok too.xx

[Owlunar]

Thursday morning and another beautiful day

But it was so cold I had to turn the heater on for a while - but it's getting warmer now - I enjoy autumn weather

My puddy tat is settling from her feline melt-down after my being away for a week - she was getting really hard to get on with - jumping onto me in the middle of the night and meowing walking around - as if she had feline PTSD - perhaps she did

I have no idea what goes in inside that little head but obviously she is warning me not to go away again - so a couple of nights ago I cuddled her for a long time and did the same last night and she let me sleep - and today she is having her claws clipped - that will make it easier on the couch and wire screen and my legs I guess - because they are really shart

I appreciate everyone's kind thoughts - it makes this time of year easier - I do feel it's harder atm - but it is much better when other people know

Thanks one and all - and I will let you know about my cat and her behaviour as life goes along - I am planning to go back to Lakes Entance in July - ah - I wonder how the cat will be after that

Dec

[Shaz51]

Hugs @Owlunar 

yes your cat will start to settle down again soon , lots of cuddles xx

[Owlunar]

Hi @Shaz51

Yes - my cat has settled after her meltdown and who knows what a cat thinks and knows anyway?

For a while it felt as if I had a different cat that looked like mine - what happened to my snugly little friend - she had turned into a tyrant

I think she was insecure - and needed more reassurance and cuddles - but I did not like being disturbed in the middle of the night - about 3 times a night I think - I wasn't counting -and I was cross and shoved her off me - shouting at times - I was annoyed

But this must have made her more upset - so I tried excessive evening cuddles - lots of them - reverse psychology - she settled down - thank goodness - and I will go away the next time I feel like it because I can - I am honest, human and have the means - and she is a cat and can stay in her own home because my family is okay (I don't know about pleased) to come and check on her

Errrr - I have threatened her with my cousins cattery - but the cat doesn't understand that much English and I don't think I could do that to her anyway

I hope you are okay and your kidney infection has settled - and also you Mum - how is she atm

Dec