Life can be a Pain

[utopia]

Kids are so smart and logical, aren't they @Owlunar. I laughed at your sons story. A beautiful funny memory.
We had rain here overnight. The ground is wet. The air is cool. I'm cold. Lol. A weird feeling to be cold after an almost 3 week heatwave.
My mum and I and his gf are picking my son up from the airport at 6 tonight. I can't wait to see him. But I'm getting really anxious and nervous. I don't know why. But the feeling is growing stronger. I'm thinking it would be better if I stayed home and mum can bring him here.
I'm feeling teary but I can't cry. I don't know what to do. I'm very tired

[Former-Member]

@utopia, if you're like i was with my kids, u might feeling inadequate / not good enough. Don't listen to blackdog, you're love is so important in uour son's life. Be stong xox

@Owlunar, i havent caught up on all your posts but dis pickbup on & relate to the 'toxic sister' thing most. My sister wants sole guardianship & financial cotrol of all dad's affairs & applied to Public atrust courts to obtainbit. Idiot mailed my notification to Queensland when she's seen me every week in tge x4 weeks i've veen here. She hates that i've moved into the house - to help, ignores. that mum & dad requested me too. Sge's caused me so much stress in this process.

Reply to your post. on Declutter thread:
Hi @Owlunar, sorry it's been so long. How are you? Yes, I'm here full time with dad. Yes, compared to this time last year - dad has declined a lot. I'm watching for Grief with him & all i see is an occasional pensive gaze & less cognition after something like the funeral, picking up the ashes yesterday & the day or two after she died... No doubt it helps that i am here. God is in charge.
// As for siblings, not too good at standing up to them but I'm pressing hard not to make too many changes for dad to cope with. And yes, my presence is a security in itself. // Dad does love the female shitzu fog - she's so affectionate, jumps up on his bed every morning to say hello. // Yes, Mum's ashes on view are a constant reminder for dad that she has passed (re his memory loss). This is also why he hqd to pick up the ashes himself (with help of cause) and telling people himself... He seems to be doing these things with dignity but occasionally still talks about, or to me using mum's name, or sometimes tells people mum's here when he means me. People can think he's like that all the time, but he is not, and its the words coming out wrong, not his understanding. He knows mum has died. // Decluttering mums stuff is not yet a case of "going through it all" but actually removing things in the way of functioning without tripping, having to move things to clean etc. I like to think she can see now ' that this is better long term. Thanks for walking with me & caring Dec (and forumites), we have so much similar life pain. i know u care xox

Sciatica is problematic when driving so working on this. Yes, Tension, stress, anxiety, depression - it all seems to compound physical pain. But also theres more physical demands on me here. "Resting in short spaces" is the best advice really - it's my 'self care' moments where i also centre myself, stretch out my back and breath, pray etc Amazing what 20min can achieve. // Love and prayers for u2 forum sisra Dec

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I have to go out  in a few minutes to have that injection into my hip so I can't really right a good answer right now - I am not an morning person so getting up and getting ready hasn't been fun at all

Your sister probably thinks she has more power than she really has - I know this is a terrible worry for you. When my parents went into care I spoke to some kind of advocate on the phone and learned that although my sister had the POAs etc and was really up herself with the responsibility she could have had a shock if I had pulled rank being the eldest child

I will do my best to get back today - can't promise but I know this is a huge worry for you and I have this in my prayers

Dec

Just a thought - why is your sister in such a bloody hurry - it sounds like she a control freak and it does smack kinda like she's after the family fortune - do you know if there is a will - there might be

[Owlunar]

Aw @Former-Member@utopia@Adge@Shaz51@outlander@Faith-and-Hope

I have been and had the injection into my hip - I have really been waiting to have it but ouch

It bloody hurt and I am tough about pain - I even made my point in a firm voice - "Aw - that really hurts"

So - I am not feeling crash hot now - I will be okay - I will feel better as the day goes on and I am seeing my therapist this afternoon

Enough for now - my domestic helper hasn't turned up and I am rather glad about that today but the agency needs to know. It's one of those days when I needed time to myself and I have had that now

Dec

[Former-Member]

Gently love to you @Owlunar 

Niqua

[Owlunar]

Thanks Niqua 💖

Dec

[outlander]

ouch @Owlunar i really hope that once the injection has worn in and after a day or so itll settle down and youll start to feel better and in less pain. good luck with your therapist appointment, hopefully its helpful to you. maybe your cleaner will come a little later this afternoon so you can get some time to yourself before your appt. 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hugs @Owlunar .... 💜🦉

[Shaz51]

sending you hugs @Owlunar 

seeing my therapist this afternoon, thinking of you my friend

[utopia]

Hugs for you @Owlunar ♥♥♥ take it easy