Life can be a Pain

[Former-Member]

Things usually sort out, thanks @Former-Member, and the emotions settle down quicker these days (thank goodness!!). So, ride the waves gently putting feelers out there. Nice to see you LJ xox

[Former-Member]

Thanks for your heartfelt reply @Former-Member means a lot to hear your own experience and how you've coped with these little conflicts on the forums. Guess the do blow over but still sadens me I'm being ignored by two people (a whole year now) and to hear someone new has been told to avoid me. That's sad. But I try not to invest too much of myself here anymore, just bits when I can. Especially in relation to exchanging MH experiences, the facts & less drama. It is nice to have a little festive fun / play too sometimes, like at 'beer garden' last night - don't get any of that in the real world, so yep, trying to make the most of it. Try be more self aware as to what's 'my stuff' what's theirs.

You seem to be a genuine 'gentle' soul Lj,  and keep a careful low profile here on the forums - i respect that more than you know.

Thanks for connecting xox

[Former-Member]

Bunch of flowers to brighten your day

@Owlunar and @Former-Member xox

[Former-Member]

Awww such beautiful flowers @Former-Member 🙂 Thank you!! Last night was a bit of fun, so nice to have everyone coming together.
I have to get some things organised for the week. Wash the dog, meal prep etc etc. Looking forward to getting my kids this afternoon after an overnight at their dads.
Hope you both have a good one!
LJ

[Former-Member]

@Owlunar, worried about you, what's happening? My back has eased up since I got back into the tumeric, which I ran out of. Still grabs me now & then, even leaning over the sink, but I'm not telling you anything new. Just popping in to say hi, give us a callout 📣
🌸🌼🌸🌼🌸

[Former-Member]

oh @Former-Member I've heard about tumeric being quite amazing for all sorts of things! Glad your back has eased up a bit! I have been drinking water with apple cider vinegar this year and it has seemed to help a number of things i was having difficulty with!

I hope that you are ok @Owlunar 

take care,

LJ

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Owlunar .... ❤️💕

[Shaz51]

are you ok @Owlunar 

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I had to have a bit of a giggle about my "grandbaby" - she's 23 and lives in her own flat now - very clever girl too - and she will be checking on my cat when I am away - yes - I have been busy lately

Thanks for your comments - as unpleasant as having pain is yes - I can be helpful about it - and understand about it - and know chronic pain is a hard thing to treat and some doctors are really weird about it

Yes - people here are picking their way forward the best way they can - people with various forms of emotional distress and discomfort will make their way forward because of their honesty - it's the people who don't own their health issues that don't get well

Dec

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I am okay - I have been busy and when I am busy my back aches more - but yeah - I feel okay

About S1 - it's hard to win with people when they are 16 - they have a "being 16 entitlement feeling" and whatever - I could say "don't take it personally" but whenever anyone says this to me I feel the issue is incredibly personal

Hopefully he will grow out of it - and yes - if he has asthma too he will be afraid for himself - quite natural - and yeah - I know there must have been a man in your life and maybe you are blamed for that as well - like you said - S1 said - "If he'd been here.........."

I have read my son's inquest and I know exactly what happened - it was open-and-shut - no reason to believe anything underhand happened - and when my then-husband told me what had happened - his ignorance on the issue astounded me - I had to find out for myself - and did - and I do have some peace there after all these years - but it has been hard at times -

What I can tell you is that it will get easier in time - but there will always be the wound within - and it leaves an devastating scar - but the memories ease with time

My stars - sacroilitis - I have not heard of that one - sounds like the doctor doesn't want to deal with it - I think if you ask for an appointment for an Orthopaedic Surgeon at a public hospital now before the disc degeneration gets worse you will get an MRI in maybe 6 months to a year - depending - but it won't cost you anything - and you need an MRI

Why wait till it gets worse - DDD or degenerative disc disease - part of the trouble in my spine - is progressive and very painful - what you might thing now is not that bad - or whatever - may be worse pain than you think compared with other pain - best to get on the list - and get the issue attended to - there are lots of ways beside surgery -

Believe me - whatever is eating you is more than your Black Dog talking - you are a bereaved mother with a resentful 16 year old being a 16 year old, aging parents and troubled brothers. And you have what seems to me to be DDD - and darn it - you have said you are chubby - I would resent being told that last one

I may not be around much in the next few days - lots of stuff happening here - but I will be thinking of you

And those flowers are lovely

Dec