Life can be a Pain

[Former-Member]

The silent treatment can be so powerful. Good for you.

[BlueBay]

Hope you have a nice day today @Owlunar ❤️❤️

[Owlunar]

Hi @Zoe7

Tears yes - I did cry a lot on Thursday evening - I could not seem to stop - and I was exhausted 

I went straight to bed - I thought I would cry but fell asleep straight away and slept right through until after 6.00 am and felt okay.

Yes - my neighbour telling me more about my cat than I knew was helpful - she was a sick little girl and trying to tell me - she would sometimes get up on the arm of my chair and "meowmeowmeow" in my face - and I would ask "What do you want? You have food and water and your litter tray is clean - what's wrong?" but she couldn't tell me and slowly the bits added up and yet it's only in retrospect that I have put the pieces of the puzzle together

It's normal to grieve and it's called Grief Work because it is hard work. No one wants to grieve - and I think pushing it aside or down only makes it harder - 

The years I had with this wonderful talkative and rather naughty, clever cat were special and the sorrow is working off - but worth it - having such a lovely little friends

I will try and copy a photo of her I found - this computer has been tricky with copying photos but I will see if I can get it

Dec

[TAB]

It was wonderful @Owlunar . I hope you are okay after bed incident.. Trivia for today.. the word ‘Fall’ in German can mean ‘case’ like a court case eg

[Owlunar]

Sparky

Yes - @Zoe7 - this is a good photo of her  and this once I will share her name

Dec

[Zoe7]

It would be lovely to see aphoto of her if you can manage to sort it out @Owlunar

Yes grief is a very individual thing - we all react to losing someone in different ways and you have had a lot to deal with aside from the loss of your Companion Cat so that would be making the process even harder. It does get easier - as you know - but it feels very raw right now. Hugs and hugs Dec 

[Zoe7]

Gorgeous little girl @Owlunar - she does look like she had a mischeiveous side from that photo. Thanks for sharing her name also 

[Owlunar]

Thanks @Zoe7

[Owlunar]

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@Former-Member wrote:
The silent treatment can be so powerful. Good for you.

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@Former-Member

I take it that this comment was meant for me seeing that it is on my thread

Rest assured I am not given you the silent treatment - I just don't know what to say to you

Some of the things you wrote recently were really hard for me to take - this was okay - I could take that and be okay about it - but you wrote that I had hurt you and you wanted some time - I asked you how I had hurt you because I didn't think I had - you haven't told me and so I just feel upset about that - and really hurt - I certainly never meant to hurt you - it was never my intention. I am not intenting to hurt you now.

I have had a rough time myself - and considering that I have been loyal to you until you shut me down I need to let you go - I am sorry - but I have to maintain my own boundaries and I hope you understand this

Dec

[Shaz51]

Gorgeous little girl @Owlunar, love the picture , xxxxxxxx