Life can be a Pain

[utopia]

@Owlunar. Bery bad business to charhe someone a late cancelation fee. The specialists I see advise there is a fee for late cancelation, but they only do it when someone cancels often. I've never been charged when canceling an appointment. Often at short notice due to anxiety.
You haven't paid it have you? Personally I wouldn't.
Would be so much easier if your daughter was not such a private person. But she is who she is. Maybe see how she is on Monday or Tuesday. If still not good, could you visit her and drop off some comfort food. That's always a good excuse to visit - even just for 5 minutes

[Owlunar]

Hi @utopia@Shaz51@Zoe7@Former-Member

Thanks ladies - these messages are very helpful

I haven't paid that late fee and I won't be - but I have written - not posted - a letter explaining the situation - it needs a little tweeking and I have suggested that I would negotiate a lower fee but I will not be returning because the same thing could happen again.

Uncaring - so true - and for the first time - my doctor said that he would not consider charging anyone for missing an appointment unless it was a habit but I keep appointments

My daughter - yes it would be easier if I could actually see her or at least talk on the phone - I will not intrude though - I guess I have known her for a long time and know her how and even why she is so prickly - I haven't shared my own health problems with her - she knows I was having a bit of trouble with the BP medication but I haven't mentioned that for a week - when we both thought we were okay.

I saw the pharmacist this morning - I wanted to know about this kind of medication - I had to really push hard to find out how this stuff works and found out that different tablets work on different problems. Yes- I have stress - plenty of that - and I do not need to see a psychiatrist as he thought - psychologist yes - but right now I think I have done enough raking around in the past and it seems that presents stressors won't go away - 

But I really agree that my daughter is on my mind in a big way right now and this is not something I have any control over - it is perfectly normal to be concerned when one of our kids is ill - and she doesn't know what will happen either - and I will leave it for a couple of days

After all - asking her often if she is feeling any better just because I have the need for a different answer is annoying - I would be annoyed - but then - I would talk to her if asked - so I get it - I have her a life and sometime in the past I let her have that life - 

But I would like to have less stress in my - who would not like to have less stress?

It's a lovely day today - very warm for this time of year - and I am feeling okay today - all we can do is to manage from one event to the next.

Hugs everyone

Dec

[outlander]

I hope your daughter starts to get better soon @Owlunar must be really horrible for her and for you too knowing how unwell she is.
I hope the late fee gets sorted too. Its not like you expected to be unwell or in alot of pain the day of your appt. Im not sure who can give 48hrs notice either. The morning of sounds reasonable to me.

Im glad your feeling ok today. The weather sounds lovely. Its rather gloomy outside here but i dont mind. I hope you enjoy your afternoon. Maybe sit outside for a while with cat.

[Owlunar]

Thanks @outlander

Yes - it's horrible for my daughter - I imagine that she is feeling out of touch with life right now - she is a good worker with an excellent job and I don't think she has ever taken so long off work before 

And yes - that fee is outrageous - maybe they will take my suggestion to pay less - which would have been okay in the first place - $20.00 - but even so - I would not have gone back after such an egregious idea - how can we tell if we will not get ill overnight - or whatever - a car accident on the way to the appointment - ridiculous!!

Yes - it's a wonderful day today - I didn't realise how late it is but it is time to eat lunch - sit in the sun with the cat - good idea but I doubt she would be in for that - the sun is shining on my bed atm - yes - I just checked and she is fast asleep right where I sleep - so I can go outside with my chicken salad - if she gets and idea that there is chicken around I am sure she will be around for a treat herself - which she has already had

Usually we have gloomy weather here by this time of year - there was a lot of fog around yesterday morning but it turned into a fantastic day - it's really great to have this Autumn Flush - 

I hope you are as well as you can be today

Dec

[outlander]

A chicken salad while sitting outside in the sun sounds loveley @Owlunar i hope you enjoy. Hopefully you have a lovely view or garden too.
Yes a smaller fee would be good. My psych has a rather high cancellation fee too. I cant afford a high cancellation fee. Its likr paying for nothing.
Anyways enjoy lunch 💕 and i hope your daughter gets well soon or is willing to talk abit more about whats happening for you.

[outlander]

Opps- talk more about whats happening for her ^^^

[Owlunar]

Hi @outlander

High cancellations fees - good topic actually - we are actually employing these people - paying for a service and they are the service providers - so

We are actually their employers - and these providers are working for a lot of people. People used to hire me to tutor them or their kids mostly with English subjects for school or university - and I didn't get paid if people decided I wasn't required at short notice - so yeah - 

 I have been told that our insurance or medicare pay doctors etc - true - but we are paying our medical insurance or as tax-payers supporting the inadequate system - and when it comes to seeing a psychologist I have often reached a stage to pay totally out of my pocket so I guess I am the boss here and I am in charge -

And it's sorta something people in those professions forget - it is possible that they can develop a better opinion of themselves - 

The day has gone all unnecessary Outlander - and the cat did come out looking for her share of chicken when I was eating my salad - mostly she eats the Presciption diet I buy in bulk from the vet - and it contains everything she needs in her puddy-cat diet - but she loves a bit of chicken and if I eat salmon she wants some of that too - she even fishes chop bones out of the rubbish - I lock the bin in the laundry until I empty it there are tasty scraps she shouldn't eat

And my daughter - yes - she will tell me a bit when she is recovered but it must be hard for her when she has a job she loves and now she hasn't worked since before Easter - and it's 2.5 weeks since she had the operation.

I know she feels rotten and basically there is nothing I can do for her - at least her husband will be around for the weekend.

Dec

[outlander]

that is true @Owlunar i get the cancellation fee to some extent though, some people cancel just because they cant be bothered (not because they cant) i get that , kinda like time wasting, but i dont get why its so high. 

your cat sounds very well looked after and rather spoilt. our pets are often our best friends though so being spolit often comes with the territory lol. 

im glad your daughter has her hubby around to help her too, and that she liked her card from you. she sounds appreciative that you done that for her. 

[utopia]

Great pic @Owlunar. Made me smile.
So is the bp medication starting to settle down and not cause any side effects?
I had to swap my bp medication last year as it was causing my pulse to drop very low. According to my pulse rate at the time, I was avery fit young man in my 20's. Instead of a very ooverweight middle aged woman. Lol. Once I went on the new bp meds - everything settled down.

[Former-Member]

THINKING OF YOU ❤