Life can be a Pain

[Owlunar]

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@Former-Memberwrote:
Great discussion to read @Owlunar & @Zoe, we can learn so much listening in, thank you 🙂 Particularly liked when you said, yesterday "great day for snuggling on the couch with a little white fluffball Smiley Tongue" - Now that sounds like self care, bigtime! Zoe7.

Have a good day you two ❤❤❤

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Hi @Former-Member

I am glad you had the chance to listen and learn - I do read other threads at times - or other people's posts - I can't answer everyone but I hope I do remember what I learn

But although I can't answer everyone doesn't mean I don't care - there have been times when I been triggered and we all need to protect ourselves from that - but I still care - 

There is a saying "They also serve who only stand and wait" and "Silence is golden" - we don't know how many people read what we write - also I think we help more people than we can know about

Dec

[utopia]

You are right @Owlunar. Women need to be strong to withstand all the issues our female bodies give us. And the attitude some men give us.
I think in the past there was not a lot of work put into women's health in general. Yes it's improved but still not great.
Do you know that most medicines that have been approved for use - were trialed on men only!!
Women react differently to different meds. Women react differently when ill with the sameillness than men.

[Owlunar]

So true @utopia

Men do seem to suffer more though and some weeks back it was a subject on The Project - and the outcome - apparently man-flu is real and men are really a lot sicker with flu of the same degree of suffering than women

It's because we have more estrogen generally and it helps us - and we need that because there is no time out for mothers - the man of the family can lay low and moan gently when his equally ill wife tends the children - does the housework, often works outside the home etc on and on - and  thought man-flu was a fact but not so

So the hormone which gives us all this difference - oh wow - the one we need to do the hardest job of all - bring a new life into the world - makes us physically weaker and smaller and we suffer less from the flu - ever get the feeling we can't win 

I told my uncle this - he was amazed - I was asked where I learn all the information I have - that's easy - I watch docos and similar programmes and then look things up on the internet and I have a memory to envy - 

So - we can rearrange our ideas and men -'em - can too because man-flu is real. And when I went searching for clipart I found another site telling me about it 

I hope no one is devastated - and we will be kind to you guys here when you are crook

Dec

[outlander]

Glad it went well for both yourself and your daughter @Owlunar ❤

[Owlunar]

Yes - thanks @outlander

The important parts of the day went well - the new doctor was okay about my medication and my daughter - more importantly - had her operation and was home really fast afterwards

I got the jitters during the afternoon - I know what was causing them - that doesn't make them any easier - anything to do with my medication makes me uneasy - and I had the TV on for background noise and heard an argument about my kind of medication and thought - "Can they not talk about something else?" 

So I turned the TV off and tried to do something else - but alas - I have too much on my mind lately - the days I had to myself were pretty peaceful but now reality returns and my stress goes - way up.

How has your day been - do your sisters go back to school this week - here it's already school holidays. The battery in my watch is flat and I need to go to the mall for another one but I don't go there in the holidays and it's amazing how often I look at my wrist and really miss my watch

But this is life and I hope the holidays are not too rough on you - do you go to your mothers place to babysit or do they come to your house? 

And how is your sore hand - have you got broken fingers or are the bones in the wrist bruised? - it's a pest to have sore hands because they mean we can't do all we are needing to - 

And how is your Pop -- did he have a good holiday over Easter? - 

Btw  it suddenly occurred to me - we are in the same class of people - we are accident-prone - I bet you are tall and inclined to be lanky - that's me - my extra weight from being just plain older and less active doesn't change the long arms and legs and broad shoulders etc - I just have trouble fitting myself into small places - I never can keep my arms and legs still and knock things over, drop things - just a general klutz - all those who are accident prone - you are in good company

Dec

[outlander]

Im feeling rather tired tonight @Owlunar so thinking despite not being able to sleep should at least rest some. Id like to give you a prooer response tomorrow if you dont mind.
Hoping you get some sleep tonight too

[Owlunar]

I understand @outlander - I fell asleep on the computer - definitely time to go to bed 

It is important to at least get into a restful situation even if you think you mightn't sleep - so now is the time to go as I am - and tomorrow will be fine to answer

Goodnight and get as much sleep as possible - I intend to - 

Dec

[utopia]

Great picture @Owlunar

[Owlunar]

Thanks @utopia

If that's the man-flu one - I think it's so true - my ex and the flu - I would have cared if he had taken one headache tablet - but alas he did not want to do that

But can us girls win? Are we really tougher in some ways because of estrogen?

And yes - when I last posted I forgot what you said that drug trials were performed with men and women do have different physical and emotional reactions - that makes us different in many ways and

I do often wonder why and how women became the inferior members of society because it seems that has been the case forever - a lot of primitive tribles treat the women as second class - aw - that is hard

Maybe being treated as different and somehow "less than" is one reason women seem more represented in the Mental Health Department - we have more people in hospitals with MI - more women take psychotrophic prescription drugs

But then - this doesn't mean men don't suffer - ask them - they are worse when they get the flu and has science helped us but telling us estrogen helps us

After a long, quiet and private weekend I have a busy week - how are you feeling today?

Dec

[utopia]

Feeling awful today @Owlunar. Realised this afternoon that I've missed 2 days of meds. So I'm ahakey and irritable and just plain miserable. Trust me to forget to refill my med dispenser.
But as mum said, I've been busy and my routine is out of whack and we've had my sons girlfriend over, which means I've needed to put in a lot of effort to be 'present' & communicate.That in iitself would have taken a lot out of me. Add in the missed anti depressants - and I'm a mess.
My mum has taken my son to work and is entertaining his girlfriend til her train comes. She will have my son at her house tonight. He is not happy about it, but I've explained I need to be alone to cry or throw a tantrum or whatever else I need to do, to get through this time until my meds kick in.
Poor boy. He hates me sending him away to mums. But on days like this, I have no alternative.