Life can be a Pain

[utopia]

@Former-Member - after my many stays in hospital this year, it has taken a while to come back to the forum. I've been out of hospital 10 weeks, but the depression is only lifting now. So I'm still not 'back here' the way I was before. I'm not sure it will ever feel the same as before. As I've been through too much.
But I'm slowly trying to respond to old friends on here. Haven't got around to everyone yet.
Sorry to hear you are having a tough night. Hopefully things will work out - after talking to the moderator.

[Shaz51]

you are feeling as though you are being bullied in the forums, _-- ohh @Former-Member, I have soo many questions about this my friend xoxo

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member its great that you want to talk things out with moderators about this. I do need to flag that tagging a moderator does not mean that you will get an email check-in. We really do want to hear about the bullying you mentioned as bullying is never okay. Please feel welcome to put your concerns into an email to us at team@saneforums.org and we will continue to speak with you about it there. I will also just flag that as Sane does not moderator over the weekend, that we will follow this up with you next week.

In the meantime, I would encourage you to maybe use threads that you dont feel that you are bullied in and use any coping strategies that you have already over the weekend. We will chat with you further about this next week.

I hope you have a good weekend. Take care of yourself

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Former-Member, usually moderators do respond if I @tag them in a post, but that's ok if you don't do that. And now away 'toll next week. Also, I don't want fuss & im not naming names (its pasdive aggressive, you'll have to find it / figure it out yourself here, before I'm free to say more privately). I just want coping skills - this is the first forum I've belonged to, apart from fb. I've messed up a former identity here speaking up so don't trust that process formalised. Next week I would have moved lon / switched. It doesn't matter, been here before.

@Shaz51, how are you? I'm ok. What I'm experienced is more a case wanting coping skills than rocking the boat. The term 'bullied' came from Rockpool, not me. I'd rather take ownership and manage my sensitivities / MI relating to people (already spelled clearly in last few posts). Besides, I think the matter is resolving a little. Thanks 💜

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I took yesterday off - yes another headache - I would think the humid and thundery weather and stress causes these headaches right now - eek - I will be in hospital the day after tomorrow and by now might have had my operation 

It is not the time to freak out just yet - I am saving that up for the right moment when I am being wheeled out of my room toward the theatre - I tell my best jokes then - off the cuff - everyone laughes - including me - while I feel as if I am having a litter of kittens right there and then

So yes - I love the owl - I love all the owl-pics - I seem to have an owl of a personality here - I actually have 30 - 40 ornamental owls in and around my house - love owls

I am sorry your feel emotionally abused by someone here -  I so do - I went through something months ago and I feel sure you would understand - like - how much can we say here? I finally spoke to the moderators about it and it stopped but it was really rough at the time and completely finished now - 

I guess you can talk to the moderators about some coping strategies - I am glad you are so open and honest with me - it makes for better and open and honest friendships - I hope you don't withdraw again - please don't do that - all this time I have found people with narky notions have all their own stuff in the way and that is all they can see really

Oh my - this is not the place for people to be horrible to each other - I really keep my active contacts to a few and I can be more helpful and say more of what I am feeling to a few people - there are a few people at the top of my list of friendlies - I guess they know who they are - and it is such a small thing to be nice to each other - and it goes such a long way

I hope you are okay Lapses - if there are people who give you a hard time then remember - to me and to others you are a top-of-the-list kind and gentle person who is vulnerable as well all are and this is the place for the nice and kind and friendly gentle people - and we love you

I love you Lapses

Dec

And - good news - Companion Cat is completely recovered from what I think was heat-stress - when I picked her up to put her in her cage she sort of drooped over the edges of my hands and fingers and collapsed back into a little furry puddle in the corner of her blankie - and when the vet took the lid off the cage she was still there and when the vet lifted her out she sorta drooped from her hands to and just stay on the table without moving - 

But the raw chicken and time and a change in the weather helped - she was back to being my Nortie Tortie - bossy - demanding and cantankerous - I was so relieved. Her blood tests were normal also - she is in good health esp for such an old cat

I still feel sorry about your little dog - they do become so precious don't they

Dec

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member@Shaz51@utopia@outlander@Adge@Faith-and-Hope

Just in case anyone has missed this - I am having a knee arthroscopy tomorrow and I have not been feeling up to being very active in the forum over the last few days - feeling rather useless actually

It's a good thing to have happen and this time last week I had no idea this would happen so soon - in fact - when I saw the surgeon he said there wasn't a lot he could do apart from tidy up the damaged cartilage - I am no where near having a knee replacement yet - and if this had just happened - I must have done the damage when I tripped when I was in Sydney three months ago - he would say to wait three months but it has been three months and I have been battling all this time with it getting harder and harder and I have been doing the right thing by walking all this time so this is good

Regardless of all this info - it has been tough and one part of me is glad this will be done tomorrow but I am not looking forward to it at all - it will be great to have to done and get my knee working properly asap - taking reasonable time of course

Sorry I have not been about that much - I care about everyone but not really been up to much over the last few days

And my daughter is taking me to hospital tomorrow and picking me up on Wednesday and bringing me home - I'm getting this extra night in hospital because I live alone - so I am glad of the extra time off my feet

Thanks for your support over these last weeks - it has meant a lot

Dec

[Former-Member]

All the best for tomorrow @Owlunar

[Owlunar]

Thanks @Former-Member

It will be really good to have this attended to so I can get back to feeling a whole lot better

Dec

[Phoenix_Rising]

I hope things go well for you tomorrow @Owlunar. 

[Owlunar]

Thanks @Phoenix_Rising

I will get by with a little help from the people in the forum 

And these best wishes are already helping

Dec