Life can be a Pain

[Faith-and-Hope]

Oh @Owlunar .... that was miserable re your back yesterday ....

Sending you hugs and well-wishes for today.  I hope you're feeling better soon.

❤️💕

P.S.  Just go a TEXT from my Dad .... !!  

Before we left on our trip he finally, finally, got himself a mobile phone after criticising the need for anyone to have one .... for many, many years.  

My mum passed away 16 years ago, and she had just bought herself one three months before.   As we were leaving Aus to return to Greece after her funeral, WH remembered that he had had to sign some papers before we left that he had left at home .... I called my Dad in another vehicle on my mother's mobile phone that he was carrying and he dashed back to the house to get them while we checked in at the airport .... she saved the day, and it was after she was gone ... ❣

Then my dad let the phone lapse .... cos he didn't see the need to have one .... despite having wonky knees and going for long walks in isolated places by himself .... :face_with_rolling_eyes: .... and then visiting us in the city and going for long walks by himself .... :face_with_rolling_eyes: ....

And wondering why business people weren't calling him with consultant job offeres, after asking for his mobile phone number and being told that mobile phones aren't necessary, and are unnecessarily costly, and that he has an answering machine at his house ....

Now .... now ... he has got himself a mobile phone .... ✅ has called me on it .... ✅ has stopped the car to call me back on it .... ✅ and this morning answers me by text .... ✅

WTG Dad .... ❣

[Former-Member]

Ouchy! Poor @Owlunar, feel for you. Pain can sure fray our nerves, and patience. I'm sure your support workers will understand you snapping at them once you explain, maybe later. Shouldn't have to I know but probably best for the long term - explaining what pain does and how you have a certain deliberate way of moving things, even little things, so it doesn't hurt. Maybe you could type it out for them to read - some of them a a bit 'thick' or too 'rushed' and it doesn't have yo be that way.

Try nor to worry about it too much. And I hope the pain goes. Arthritis tends to improve with movement (not too much) which may account for why ya better PM than AM. Takes me a bit of stretching etc to shake morning stiffness, sometimes a remarkable difference. My slow release pills don't touch the surface on bad days but hear they work for some. Dr wants me to go back on them, give em another try so I can step up the activity levels re mod sleep apnoea & need to lose weight. Wish I was more in tune with my body so I didn't gain this extra 30kg grr pesky metabolism, so much harder when ya bones hurt.

Anyway, just wanted you to know I hear ya, and hope it eases soon. And thanks too for reply on the other thread 'mothers' Chin up Dec, not alone xox

[Former-Member]

Hey @Faith-and-Hope, I can feel your excitement all the way over here on the east coast re ya dad finally getting a mobile phone, AND being able to tx. And that story about ya mum, aww, made me teary. I felt the same when my mum overcame her technophobia and bought a semi smartphone. She can't do pics etc but loves receiving them and loves texting. Amazing she let Bro4 teach her, and that he bothered. Poor dads memory loss has made it impossible for him to even tx now or find pics we send etc really sad 'cause he forgets he's forgotten or use to know and keeps trying now and then (its the dementia :)) He has a Samsung which mum refuses to uses touchscreens and my Bro4 borrows half the time anyway, poor dad. . mum mum makes up for it, she's always on the phone and always texting over breakfast dad says. Anyway, just want to say I'm excited with you, it sure improves contact. xox

@Owlunar, do you have a mobile phone?

[Appleblossom]

@Decadian Glad you had some success getting through to Juvenile Justice? Dept.  Helping them live up to their name.

I too have difficulty when people do not listen.  I cannot raise my voice easily as the strain goes to my neck so I have had to tell people I will repeat but can only do do a couokle of times...

I am still amazed at how bad listening skills are in the general populace .. support workers should be able to stop their flurry of activity to actually hear a client and not resist ... thinking they know better.

Feeling for you .. in lots of ways.

[Owlunar]

HI @Former-Member

Amazing how people think mobile phones are unnecessary until they get one - and then - wtg - the world is a better place and people are easier to contact and we are always available -

I got my first phone - must be 12 years ago - and I was a social smoker - but when I got my first very low contract phone for emergencies I thought the phone was more interesting than smoking and quit -

Now that's a good reason for a mobile phone

Yes - I have one Tawney but I don't use it to receive posts - they crowd the phone and use my gigs to fast - but I can send and email now.

I think that older people do not understand that they pay for the use of the phone before they get it - and might as well use it for phonecalls which I do now

I am tired today - I saw my therapist yesterday and was really exhausted when I got home - I went to sleep for about 3 hours - and then found it difficult to stay asleep for the rest of the night

And yes - bad about my medication - not good to miss a dose

About that medication and weight - I think it slows people down - it slowed me down - and just reducing the dose by a quarter twice a day gave me energy I never seemed to have before -  maybe I have already lost weight - I only want to lose a little bit -

And those people who will not hear me when I suggest something - I talked to my therapist about this yesterday and she said they think they know better and have no idea how little unexpected movements can increase my pain - for most people I explain this - but even so - except for my long term helpers they do not realise how much pain I am in.

And I knew all about it when I missed one pill

Gotta go - I will be back soon but I have things I need to do

Dec

[Former-Member]

Good to see ya @Owlunar, need a bit of sympathy here today. Last night i felt a big clunk when i sat on the couch - surprisingly didnt hurt but when my feet hit the floor this morning - ouch! pain & stiff legs, grr. Not the worst its been or as bad as yours but Boohoo. Hoping gentle movements loosen whatever I've done. Trying to DO more (Dr orders) but it just shakes things up, however, might have to give up on the trailer loads lol xox

[Faith-and-Hope]

Ummmm ...,, yuh-huh @Former-Member ❣ .....
Ithink heavy lifting has to come off the to-do list for you today Hon ......

[Former-Member]

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I never compare my pain to anyone else's  - worse or easier - and there is no need at all to say your pain is not like mine - pain is pain and it is indeed an individual experience

The same with various forms of emotional discomfort and really bad spells of terror or despair. I think that my experiences here are less than other people's and yet I cannot know that - but I do know I was worse in the past - when I coud not do a thing but sit and cry - and burned out and felt strange - still can't explain it - spent a lot of time going in and out of a private psyche clinic for sedation

Still - I will send along some sympathy - it will reach you through the atmosphere - I know it can be so debilitating and makes us so awkward.

Yes - we can explain and explain to some people and they never understand it - I have had so many people through my home through the last 20 odd years - some are so busy talking about themselves they never hear - others are sensitive and hear everything - and some really do know the pain I am in -

And sometimes I have to remind myself - yeah - it can be bad -

Yes - I have a mobile phone - it took me a while to understand the contract and no one explained it to me - but with the smart phone I learned and get a message if I use too much "space" - my olds had one they never used - same with other elderly relatives - I have tried to explain they have already paid for their calls and they do not need to respond to anything they don't understand - but they say there are none so deaf as those who will not hear

This past weekend as been quiet - I have been recovering from missing one pill last week - amazing how long that took to re-set itself to "normal" whatever normal is.

But I have booked a few days at Lakes Entrance - which is a resort town on the mouth of the Gippsland Lakes Estuary - I don't like to advertise when I will be away - and I am not taking my computer with me but I will reset my phone so I can send a few emails. The place I have booked is just a short walk from a bridge that carries pedestrians across one of the Lakes to the ocean beach and I am not far from a little supermarket so I can buy food to keep the cost of the restaurant down.

So it is great having a phone so I can look at all these things and all the details just on my phone - I found this was handy in Canberra last year - and I have been busy checking out possible trips. I can dream - how about flying to Darwin and then flying out across the Kimberley - that has to be fantastic

Take it easy with your back pain - I know it hurts and could make you cry from despair - and I hope your Dad gets to text you sometimes - it seems everyone but him can - and your Mum pinches other people's phones - your family is really hurt - and it hurts you - I can feel that

Lots of hugs Tawney

Dec

Oh yes - dd has her birthday today - I am seeing her on Wednesday - I woke up after dreaming I was searching for my phone - and I was asleep so no wonder I couldn't find it -

Sympathy being sent

[Former-Member]

hello @Owlunar

Sorry to hear about your pain.

Incident with desk should not have happened. The incident should be reported and paperwork completed just in  case you have further complications. Sorry dont mean to upset, worry you. occupational health & safety issue.

Person should be reported and of course none of us like to get someone in trouble, or cause problems.

The situation could have ended up much worse.

Enough said.

I do hope someone moves your recliner chair for you, not you even assisting though.

As for person choosing other colours, wrong, you choose what you like.

Sound like a schoolmistress dont i.

take care and be very careful with your bodyxxx