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You had a slip yesterday @utopia - quite understandable under the circumstances - don't beat yourself up over it though - it happens and probably will again at some stage - it is how you proceed from today that is important. I don't think you were a bad mum at all - anyone would have reacted the same under the same circumstances - it does hit you where you are most vulnerable but the fact that he has apologised to you today shows that you have done a good job with your son. It is never an easy thing for a teenager to do to apologise and you are the one that has given him that strength and insight. Sometimes in the heat of the moment - as @Faith-and-Hope and @Teej have said - teenagers are all about themselves and do not understand fully how much their words can hurt - it is part of growing up and part of that is also recognising when you have hurt someone and atoning for that - as your son has done. That says to me that you are infact a good mum as you have instilled in him that level of compassion and understanding that comes out when he is less 'hormonal' and more able to look at the situation from all perspectives. 
