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[utopia]

Tired of hearing negative news anout my health and prognosis @Owlunar.

Just don't see what the point is.

And I'm so ....... (insert all known swearwords) with my ex employer. I was living life before all of this.

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @utopia ....,.

I’m hearing something else here ......

Your psych is saying that you have always been a highly sensitive person. This is the description I have found ......

“The person who is highly sensitive has an innate trait of high sensitivity. There are some easily noticeable traits that can distinguish highly sensitive people, or HSP, from the regular ones. An HSP is creative, thoughtful, and very imaginative. Psychological professionals conduct a test to confirm whether an individual has this particular type of personality or not. This test is known as the highly sensitive person test. It comprises a list of questions, the correct answers to all of which help a psychologist come to a conclusion. According to studies, 15-20% of the human population has a highly sensitive personality.

Noticeable Traits
Is able to perform deep processing of information.
Picks up subtle things while in the process of learning.
Is not able to learn well when over-aroused.
Is loyal, hardworking, and thoughtful.
Is good at doing tasks that need deep concentration and focus.
Is able to accomplish tasks with great accuracy, detail, and speed.
Is very painstaking.
Is good at fine motor movements.
Gets more affected by caffeine as compared to normal individuals.
Can stay still for a longer period of time than regular people.
Is creative and imaginative by nature.
Takes time to come out from the effect of some sort of stimulus.
Can understand human emotions deeper than other people.
Is better at finding and/or avoiding errors.
Does not give his best on being watched.
Works well when the situation is calm and relaxed. Dislikes pressure.
Tends to mix less with other people.
Prefers to feel and experience quietly by himself.
Is a great organizer. This is one of the most positive traits of an HSP.
Is caring and compassionate. This particular trait makes the company of such a person wonderful.
Is inclined towards spirituality.
Is blessed with an incredible aesthetic sense.
Is concerned for the environment.
Has a sense of appreciation for nature, art, and music.
Notices subtleties, like changes in a person's appearance or in some object's placement.
Performs well in the presence of known people.
Prefers to play quietly and by himself.
Asks deep and thought-provoking questions.
Gets easily disturbed by loud noise.
Reads the mind and mood of others.
Is able to notice the slightest unusual smell.
As is clear from the information given above on the traits of a highly sensitive person, the perception of things in the surrounding is significantly magnified by the time it reaches the brain in such people. Because of this, feelings and emotions experienced by an HSP are comparatively stronger. This is the reason that explains how highly sensitive people and depression are found to be associated. If you find your case to be similar, you must be looking for information on how to control your overt sentiments and emotions at times. You may also display exaggeration of feelings sometimes. Therefore, you cannot control your emotions the way other people do. However, you can try to do so by trying out certain relaxation and calming techniques. You can take help of yoga and deep breathing techniques to cope with anxiety and stress. Leading a disciplined life with proper hours of sleep and relaxation will also help you.”

https://www.google.com.au/amp/s/psychologenie.com/highly-sensitive-person-traits.amp

It’s positive, don’t you think ?

Your psych is saying that your trauma increased the sensitivity, and the skills and strategies you learn can turn that sensitivity back down ..... that sounds like to can get back to somewhere near where you were before ...... to me anyway. That’s what I am hearing you say that he said .......

[BlueBay]

I feel the same way at the moment @utopia xx

[Owlunar]

Really good info @Faith-and-Hope

I am a lot of those things and I was sorta trying to say that to @utopia but didn't google it - 

I'm getting used to being sensitive and emotionally fragile but really having trouble with getting older

Thanks Faith

Dec

[Owlunar]

And @utopia

Your tags are coming up in my notifications

Dec

[Faith-and-Hope]

I can relate to this list.  It’s what I refer to as an empath.  

You sorta have to learn to hold it in check a bit .... especially reading other people’s moods and behaviours ..... so you don’t overload yourself, but also out of respect for their privacy.  You know, when someone walks into the room amp do you think, “Oh-oh .... I wonder what has happened .... they look upset ....” when the person is trying to remain composed and most other people around them haven’t noticed.

It can be an asset in its positive forms.  Perhaps part of what your psych is talking about is learning how to trade .... enhance the positive aspects and turn down the volune on the “negative” ones - negative as in less useful to you.

@utopia

@Owlunar @BlueBay

Sorry @outlander ..... missed you there .....

[utopia]

@Faith-and-Hope. I don't know about that. It certainly doesn't sound like a strength at all. It's all a big shock.

[utopia]

Your last response @Faith-and-Hope may be more accurate. Turn up the god and try and turn down the bad.

[utopia]

turn up the good.

[Faith-and-Hope]

 I hear you @utopia .... and I can understand how it might seem like a diagnosis on a diagnosis ....

When I first turned up to my psychologists office, the roof was about to fall in at home ..... my S2 and D3 were sinking, and I was at my wits end trying to work out how to calm mr.f&h down ......

He told me I had a high-anxiety personality, and gave me a book to read explaining what it was and how it needed treatment.  I browsed the book and found that it wasn’t describing me at all ...... in fact it was describing mr.f&h pretty much.  I took it back and told him so, but then spent four months telling him what we were battling at home ..... and he could see it was a situational response.  Anxiety was to be expected.

Some of what you are experiencing is a situational response.  As the situation changes, your responses settle down too, so working on changes to your environment can help ..... like getting the garden sorted out for example.

Psych would probably say that I am a highly sensitive person, but as a perosnality type, it’s only a problem if the sensitivities are turned up high.  What he is talking about is helping you turn them back down.  The personality type itself is not a problem when it’s balanced.