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Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

Hi @Owlunar - so good to read a post of yours here 😀. Yes, that is the intention of the thread, to share our feelings (good, bad) and our stories and experiences. What a wonderful story about your reunion with your uncle! What a wonderful thing that you took that leap of faith and followed your inclination to visit him - resulting in special memories for you both.

It would of been so healing for your uncle and that memory would be helping in his present hard time. So glad to read of the special bond you have with your uncles - makes such a difference in ones life that type of connection. I don't have it with extended family but with my husband, daughter and some friends and I cherish it.

It is rare to receive such feedback as I did - many of us would of touched people in this way. It shows the good that can happen but rarely spoken about. And it came at a time that I personally really needed to hear. There is always a point....

You are right about toxic people - we have to keep them at arms difference to protect ourselves. I have done this myself and understand where you and @Former-Member are coming from. It's wise to do so as only more damage would pursue. This is what I am trying to get through to my daughter. All in time...

It is hard to feel all alone in our struggles though and that is where this forum is very helpful when treated and used in that good will. We are here for you @Former-Member as I know you are here for us when you can. It means even more to me that you are there as I know how you struggle and you still try and post and listen. You are a very special person - your daughter is so lucky to have you. Others would be too but now just is not the time. One day they will walk into your life when you are ready - and we are here in the meantime for you.

Dec - you are wise, good memories can carry us through the not so good. I hope to make some more good ones in the near future by not allowing my emotional pain to overshadow. I love to read people's stories - the good and not so good - and their thoughts and experiences - it's all part of the journey. ❤️xx

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

Thankyou @Former-Member and @Owlunar 💜🌸🌷
Means alot. 😢
I want to reply properly, but can’t just now. 💜

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

I understand @Former-Member - reply when you can. In the meantime put up your feet and enjoy that cuppa. We will be here when you are ready. Hope your day has some lovely, relaxing moments to savour 🌹xx

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

I get stressed about what to write. I read everyone’s lovely replies and get overwhelmed that I have nothing left to give.
I gave my all to friends and family and now feel so broken and I don’t know what to say.
Thankyou. @Former-Member @Owlunar for your kindness. 💜💜💜💜

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

Just say what you feel and what you are comfortable with dear @Former-Member - whether short or long when you feel up to it my friend. When we give our all and others let us down it can leave us feeling disheartened, down and depleted. But when one door closes, another opens. We will knock on it and continue the journey when we feel inspired and ready. In the meantime lean on us ❤️

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

Hi @Former-Member and @Former-Member

 

Post when you can Bella - there is no hurry - I think it's important to say a ittle as you have and save the longer messages for the times when you feel okay

 

And Enigma - thanks for those wonderful insights - I find it helpful to post here - in the forum - I have had too much extra physical pain over the last months and try and make light of it with clipart but the truth is that it really wore me down - 

 

And with the change of seasons I will be posting more - I do post more in cooler weather

 

My daughter - yes - she is special - she is a miracle actually - I was told I would not be likely to have a baby and here she is and I am so blessed with her - she is a very busy woman - she works and is in a band also so she has band practice and daily practise as well and I am delighted that she has taken up learning a musical instrument - I play the piano and I used to play guitar until my fingers became too arthritic so I was surprised when she started learned to play the guitar and then kept it up -

 

I can't say enough about this - and her profession - she is a horticultuist and she started as a gardening apprentice - 

 

My uncles -  they were still boys when I was born and I thought they were my big brothers and I was told that they were my father's brothers and that's wny they went home with my grandparents. I love the memory and I have special memories of all of them

 

Which is excellent - when it comes to my siblings I fear it is a lost cause - I can understand why they are the way they are but there are situations when the water under the bridge is contaminated to a degree that it would take a miracle to change the situation - and personally - a good idea to share too - I don't have the time to try and change other people - I accept them as they are - but when the toxicity reaches a certain level we have to move on with our lives and please ourselves

 

In this way - pleasing ourselves - at least we are happy - or can be - in our own skin - trying to please other people might mean no one is happy

 

I will be around more with the change in seasons and thanks for your thoughts Enigma

 

Dec

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

Everything has a trigger @Former-Member @Owlunar
Sounds a song smells, you name it, bad memories. I try so hard every day to be positive and not think about things, but it’s all there, around me.
I struggle wanting to be alive every day.
Thanks for listening.
It feels bad complaining, I feel I should be encouraging you and others.
I feel empty though.
❤️❤️

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

A phone call with my mother can affect me for days @Former-Member @Owlunar
Best avoided, which I try to do.
The “stuff” she brings up is way too much for me.
I’ll get over it. 😘

Love and hugs to you both. ❤️❤️

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

Those triggers are hard to avoid at times @Former-Member - sounds like you are grieving my friend. It's painful and can take time, our time - I find distraction helps to push out those painful thoughts and memories. And talking about it helps me too, as you are doing here. It's not bad - it's good that you are getting it off your chest. It can weigh us down too much keeping it bottled up too long. I hear you and am sitting with you 🤗💞

Re: Groundhog Day - our thoughts and our stories finding our way along the journey

👍💜😘😢 @Former-Member @Owlunar

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