Destiny

[tyme]

@Rockdog ,

Remember, therapy can bring up a lot of hurt. I hope you will be able to name and share how you felt. Sometimes, it takes something like this to solidify and consolidate what is most important to YOU.

With therapy, take what you will be helpful and leave what you don't think will be helpful.

I wonder if there's a way you talk about the feelings that you experienced without talking about what exactly happened? 

For me, there have been times where it did not feel safe to share things that have happened in terms of incidents, yet that doesn't mean you cannot share the feelings that come up for you.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense.

[tyme]

I've emailed you @Rockdog . Not sure if you got it.

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme,

That sort of makes sense. Yes I should have done it better. I know now I only want to share the facts with you. I always try to be honest and when I let my guard down I get whacked. It hurts. I know what you mean as it turns out it wasn’t safe to share. Can you maybe help me describe it without describing it. It was also more embarrassing because she was a woman of a similar age who dismissed me and refused to validate my feelings. My princess is all I want and I just want it to happen. I guess I relived the nightmare end which I had forgotten a bit after the wave. I was feeling positive about things and to have it dismissed was hard. I refuse to take that on board. It is still happening isn’t it? 

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme,

thank you I just saw it. I will check it out now 

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme ,

I just replied, hope you got it ok 

[Rockdog]

Hey @tyme,

Hope you are well. I sent an email. I hope you got it. 

Look forward to seeing what you think. Happy for any changes. 
I do feel that something good is happening. I really want things to work out. 

[tyme]

Really amazing @Rockdog . I've read it 🙂

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme ,

glad it is ok. It is how I feel. Your support has kept me going and I do believe there are good things to come. I do miss her so much and can’t wait for things to work out. 

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme,

I went to a DBT class today but I  didn’t like it. They said don’t try to read other people’s feelings from how they act. Isn’t that intuition? I did read my situation right didn’t I ? I guess I should learn things though if I want to do counselling 

[tyme]

I'm interested in what they have said @Rockdog . 

Sometimes, you don't even need to TRY and read people's feelings because you just know - right?

If someone trashes a room, my guess is that they are angry, and hence I check-in with them?

If someone phones me or wants to see me all the time, my guess it that they want my company?

If someone goes out of their way to connect with me, my guess is that they want to connect?

What do you think?

OR, does overthinking it come into this?