Am Not Coping

[Faith-and-Hope]

Just dropping a post here that I left on a Carers thread - FYI

S2's appointment went well. He has been put on a mild anti-depressant. A proper diagnosis hasn't yet been made, but I'm hearing things like "mild OCD tendencies, perfectionist tendencies causing unrealistic goal-setting, generalised anxiety" .... so nothing too scary at the moment, but I am sure WH won't like hearing any of that because it will be pressing his own buttons .... especially the lay-off-the-perfectionism-expectations ....
The pdoc didn't allow WH into the apt which will have rattled him too .... and after seeing S2 by himself again he wants to see WH and me .....

Hmmmm ..... this is going to be interesting, even if it doesn't get WH diagnosed yet .... I suspect he will be starting to become nervous about his own situation.

@Zoe7 @Former-Member @oceangirl @Former-Member @Former-Member  .... anyone else who is around ....

[Zoe7]

@Faith-and-Hope 💐🏵🌹🌺🌻🌼🌷⚘

[Former-Member]

I think that is mostly positive really @Faith-and-Hope - obviously I wish S2 wasnt going through any of these difficulties but it seems as thought it has been  'caught' early so to speak, and interventions are being put in place. The meeting with yourself and WH will be interesting, how are you feeling about that? 

I'd imagine that S2 will be feeling anxious about what may come out of that meeting too and how WH might take what the dr has to say. 

@Zoe7 - how are you doing today? hope you're doing ok

Hello to everyone else, i've not caught up on everything anywhere! Hope you're ok, will try to catch up a little bit soon.

[BlueBay]

   @Faith-and-Hope

Hi @Zoe7  @Former-Member    

BB xxxooo

[Zoe7]

@Former-Member I wanted to go home today - but a little better now - see how I go tonight

[Former-Member]

I think you're doing awesome @Zoe7 you're pushing yourself a little, and you're doing it, youre gettin through it and having a little bit of good times. so glad that you are there and that you are managing!  (i didnt think you wouldnt! Just think it's worth celebrating 🙂 )

[Zoe7]

@BlueBay above message 🌻😀💛

[Former-Member]

Hi @BlueBay 

[Faith-and-Hope]

I agree @Former-Member .... generally positive.  I think the pdoc has picked up the thread of the controlling issues coming through from WH and internalising in S2, probably with some foundation now, and personality traits that have been giving it a foothold ...

Hopefully this will stop WH from being able to push in this direction.  What he is perceiving to be ideals appear to be being put forward as undesirable .... ie being overly controlling (ocd) and unrealistically high goal-setting (mil, WH).  If we can just stop the bullying behaviours, the e.d. will have to become obvious for itself in some way or other, eventually.  We have to be able to live with WH in the meantime.

I just need this to not cause irreversible damage to any of the rest of us.

I'm thrilled to bits with what you are doing @Zoe7 .... hugs n hugs .... and I hope you're feeling more settled again now. 

💚💕

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Zoe7 ..... ❤️💕