Hi @Adge
I am sorry to make such a mistake - but I hear you
Your Dad was scary when you were young but then when he died he left a huge hole - a hole that can't be filled and imo - a hole that need not be filled
I have learned to live around my big hole - hey - just writing this makes me think about those scary sink-holes in England and Florida - they just open and swallow anything handy - I feel myself it's a good idea to know where those holes are and although we can learn to live around them they are there and I find I fall into one of mine now and again - so another thing is to plan for those dark times - hard though
Both my parents have gone now - my Dad - I was close to him and when he died my toxic sister took over her major role in life as a family disrupter - I have no idea what she gets out of this because I have moved myself to a place where she can't get at me but my mother
Yes - my mother was codependent and had huge unreasonable fears. I had a good look at her life with all the resources I had and get the reason she was so narky - reasons are not excuses
Rejecting also - I guess you have been asked why she is that way - that is so hard to answer
It's Saturday afternoon and the heavy over-night and early morning rain has cleared and I hope to take a walk today - it was too hot yesterday -
It's amazing that the heat in Cairns is dry and in the high 20s was really tolerable - in Melbourne the humidity can cause a physical meltdown - sometimes I feel as if I will turn into a little puddle
Dec
