Mum Severe Anxiety / Depression +++

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member

So sorry for your loss..

I think that you are correct about your dad understanding..

a very heart wrenching day for you..

plaese ring and talk to someone if you feel too overwhelmed with those thoughts..

I do hope that you ca have a good night restful sleep ..long overdue..

try not to dwell on the rest of the family and how they are dealing with it or reacting..

everyone grieves differently..some people never grieve at all..they can look after each other..you have more than enough on your plate..

be gentle with yourself lapses..

thinking of you..

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Former-Member ...... ❤️

[Owlunar]

Aw @Former-Member

If you feel the need to hide in the forest - imagine I am with you - I really wish I could be

Something was on my mind - I felt the need to read what you might have written and I am glad I did - but what can I say? Having been there I know there really are few words - I can't know how this death is for you - I only know how having my family and some friends pass has been for me - never easy

And I do understand how this is bringing back your daughter's passing - lots of triggers - memories - but your Mum - as your Dad said - she is more settled now

Your sister really is a number - really picks her moments - I can't help wonder why she feels the need to take over your father's financial stuff right now - you are willing to live with him and care for him - taking your poor old Dad to court - oh man - that is the living pits

Hold onto your feelings for your Dad about that and as for your mother - she has lived her life and whatever hounded her in life is over and whatever is next it has to be better than that bitterness she exhibited in these last years of her life

And there is no need to feel at all wrong about feeling relieved that the time has come to pass - and yes - you have the funeral to organise - I wish you the best for that - tough as they are they tend to be more of a celebration of life now - but what a life huh? Wow

Thinking of you heaps Lapses and wish I could be with you - sending my best hugs

Dec

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds as though you have been doing an immense job in caring while going through so much with the family dynamics. Here with you and thinking of you.

[Former-Member]

So sorry @Former-Member. Thinking of you and wishing you all the best in the coming days 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Sitting with you @Former-Member ....... ❤️🌹

[Former-Member]

my sister's here ransacking mum's room. There'll he nothing of value left now. its so disrespevtful, mum only died yesterday, i couldn't even gobin there yet.. and these court papers are here - taking contolbof dad's evetything wuile expecting me to do the hard yardsm I get upset when they ignore me. I had to hand over all funeral arrangements to her because she & her fav brother, the abusive one, refused to come to the meeting i arranged with the funeral home. They were not answering my calls. Now she walked in without knocking and is ransacking mum's room. Every square inch. its disgusting! Wouldnt mind some help to actually clean it as theres sonething I'm really allergic to in mum's room.

i'm sooo tired. and suicidal thoughts and forgetting things and...

thanks for your kind words

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member, sending my sincerest condolences to you and your family. I'm so sorry to hear of your mum's passing and that it has been a very triggering experience for you. Do you have anyone in your life who is able to support you or that you can talk to?  

Having your sister ransack your mum's room must be incredibly difficult to watch. If you feel you need to chat, please don't hesitate to reach out to our Help Centre - you can speak to someone on chat or on the phone (1800 18 7263)...

My thoughts are with you and hope that reaching out on here provides some comfort for you.

[Faith-and-Hope]

Oh @Former-Member ...... I have heard of people doing that, and it’s just awful ......

Can you quietly remove a few keepsakes of your own, maybe something none of the others will want, but something significant to you ? Perhaps a photo or two that the others are not even conscious of ?

Hold to your own integrity Hon ...... there’s no changing that sister and brother of yours by the sounds of it, but you have th real treasure if you have a relationship with your dad .....

Plant something for your mum in the garden when you feel up to it.

Hugs n hugs n hugs n hugs ...... it hurts ...... it just hurts ....... ❣️

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member ... Keeping you in thoughts and prayers.

I know you don't want to have to think of these things - if on a pension, you or your Dad should be able to get free legal aid - advice in relation to power of attorney, (don't know if dva may also have some help in that regard - there are institutions like the Guardianship Board rather than family that can administer a persons funds.