Hi @ Darcy, thanks for asking. How are you? I haven't had time or energy to go reading all over the forums, on my tiny mobile, keeping up. So hope u & hubby OK.
Its been a rollercoaster week and I'm so tired. Selling my house is an untimely necessity, my siblings continue making things harder than lighter and to be honest, it felt I nearly broke. But somehow have woke slightly refreshed today so maybe its true "God doesn't give us more than we can handle"
What complicated things this week is having THE TALK WITH DAD about going into RRC - Residential Respite Care. Its hard knowing his level of understanding but at least now, after two recent falls, he accepts that he can't be here alone. He totally 'gets' that I'm selling my house way up in Qld, found a buyer and need to go empty it very soon (though contract still subject to finance which is in the bag they say). "Of cause" he said when I asked if he understands. BUT... Dad asked me to ask Bro2 & wife if they could take him in for a couple of weeks.
Reluctantly I sent tx to bro2, and his wife, with dad's request. She wanted to but deferred to hubby & of cause, he sent off ambivolenr msgs, demanded all dads information and the keys to this house and within the hour had Bro4 standing in front of me declaring "I can stay here & mind dad, I was on call before mum died, you don't have to put him into residential care..." 😞
Delicate situation with bro4's Sz MI, drugs, bad finances, temper, recent conflict with neighbour involving police and his MH case manager...
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Bro2 & wife palmed off dad's request to stay at their place - thinks the 'unemployed' brothers should do more... Ye.... right... Doesn't matter that
- BRO-1 is confined to a wheelchair with MS
- BRO-3 is on CTO antipsychotics injections for Sz, gambles, smokes dope, always broke (I had to leave dad on his own and drive round my spare asthma spray to him Tues pm re asthma attack (how could I not when my girl died from asthma 😞 )
- BRO-4 also on CTO for Sz with a MH case manager, smokes dope, disowned his own children, borrows money from dad every fortnight...
Yep, BRO-2 thinks they (me included) faking MI for 'welfare' Yep, good old Bro2 might manage his own life well, even his one man business, but as far as being a 'brother' - what a disappointment! And, why can't dad stay with him & his wife while I go sort my house a couple a weeks! ......
