how to deal with triggering posts?

[outlander]

im wondering how other people cope when they come to read a triggering thread/post?

when i start to read triggering posts and when i cant answer it or feel helpless to post it really sets my anxiety off
i know its not up to me how people respond or feel etc and thats why we do have the moderators to monitor as well but it still really sets my anxiety off,

i feel if i leave the convo then im aboandoning that person

 im wondering how other members cope with triggering posts?

[Fancy_Pants]

Hi @outlander,

i am not sure if you know, and i know that you said you know we are here, but if you are worried about someone please feel comfortable to @Former-Member us and we will recieve an email and a link to the area you  posted in.

We will most likely be watching already but this is just a back up and so you know that you can step back if you are feeling overwhelmed and/or triggered, (hopefully) without feeling like you are abandoning the person.

Think of it more like passing the batton to a fresh runner who has been watching and is ready to jump in if needed

[outlander]

Thanks @Fancy_Pants

[Former-Member]

Hello @outlander 🙂

When I read a triggering post I'm learning to step back, I choose to see that as helping, rather than continuing with my triggered brain and it's individual different thoughts. If I feel that person may not have gotten anyone else's attention I will tag a moderator, with the knowledge that they will respond. I will often tag that person with a simple heart or a comment of hugs and positivity, so the person knows they have been heard and someone does care. We can't help any others if we don't help ourselves, and in helping ourselves we are helping everyone

[outlander]

Thanks @Former-Member ❤

[Owlunar]

Hi @outlander@Former-Member@Fancy_Pants

What the others have told you is excellent Outlander

It doesn't just apply to being triggered either - often I feel as if I can't answer that post or whatever - I might be tired myself - or I just don't relate to the person's problem and I have no idea what to say

Sometimes I just have to think about it

But we are in no way abandoning a person because we can't answer a post - I can't be here all the time and I am sure there are other people like myself who just need to get on with their life and for whatever reason - reading a triggering post or not - just have to get on with their ordinary life

It might sound harsh - but I am sure the forum was not set up to make more problems in someone's life

So read what you can and answer what you can and if there is something you can't deal with - leave a little heart as Niqua said

And I hope today is less traumatic for you - things have been a nightmare for you - and I do with there was a way for you to have more privacy and less nit-picking and interferance from your family

Hugs - Dec

[outlander]

Thanks @Owlunar

[outlander]

Life may change one day @Owlunar

[Owlunar]

@outlander

Life will change - I can assure you of that - I have been through really chaotic times through mine and I know they change

I had a wonderful psychiatrist back in the 1980s - and I despaired - just as you are now - how could I go on with life the way it was? The doctor told me it would change - and I could see one way that it would and not because I had SI or anything - but the thought was too horrible

But it did change - suddenly - overnight - and it was hard still for a long time - but the change had occurred

This was hard - but I did pull my life together over time

And nothing in our lives stays the same - we overcome one hurdle to face another and maybe we are better people because we learn to get past the hard times

Apart from anything else - your crappy little sisters have to grow up - yeah - uumph 0_l_]]

Dec

[outlander]

Thats a beautiful picture @Owlunar
Yeah i hope one day it will change. I hate life atm and waiting to see that light again but im.in complete darkness