Hi @BlueBay
I hear you - kids can be very hurtful at times - and when this starts to happen - this kind of conflict between the parents and their adult children living at home - then really - it is time they moved out and managed life as independent adults - I really understand this
And through my life I have found that one woman in the kitchen - in the home - raising children - is really enough - there will be arguments about how to raise the children, what to cook, how to cook, what to do when and how. My grandmother lived with us and I remember my mother and Gran fighting like cats and my grandmother must have been miserable. And I could never use the kitchen with my mother - my hackles would rise very quickly and - well - yes - it's time your daughter moved out - I know you will miss little A but you really don't need to share your bedroom with a 3 yo - that has to be inconvenience plus
When it comes to whether you spend time in the site is up to you - you have to do what is right for you - so take time out, I know you are unhappy and battling with your health - and I don't understand why you need to leave the site or why you feel other people's bad behaviour causes you to feel so undermined. I do believe this is what happens though. I am sad about this -
I get the picture sometimes that your family whines and whinges and they follow you around and you need some peace - PEACE - PEACE - gotcha - have you tried telling them to back off? That's what they need to do - that's what they need to know.
And I also realise that you and your husband have never had the nest to yourselves - your MIL moved in with you and by the time she went into a nursing home your kids were young adults and now they need their independence as much as you do. You have given your family the best of yourself - you truly have
Take the time you need - we do understand - I just want to you stick up for yourself in your own home -
Sending my best thoughts
Dec
