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Good morning everyone .... 💕
Another rainy day here ...... as long as it's not windy I love it ...... ❣️
Walk for coffee, shopping for extra-to-house stuff with D3, painting, something tidied in the house 4 times today (x1 - ✅) ......
Thanks for the call-out @Former-Member @outlander .....
Update - started typing this, then S2 wouldn't get up for a class he has this morning with a psych .... panic attack ..... WH takes over and starts "driving him", or trying to ...... and I can see S2 is immobilised. Left the room for a bit, cooked S2 some eggs (WH looked it up on the Internet and appaz eggs help with depression .... ??) and went back. Started talking .....
I had already asked S2 whether it was possible for him to not go to the class - WH shut that down straight away with a, "No, he's going to class, get up S2" ...... so this time I spoke to S2 in front of WH saying that I can see he is immobilised with a panic attack ..... WH started listening ...... told S2 that panic attacks often happen when we feel we have no choice in something that is frightening us ..... told him that we always have choices, and of course he could not go to this class by simply not turning up ..... S2 was nodding to what I was saying ..... I said that panic attacks can happen when we feel that we are being pushed beyond our own pace to cope ..... that if he felt he was being pushed beyond his pace to cope, he can raise his hand and both WH and I will know what he means, and reduce the pressure ..... WH was tidying S2's room around us and rearranging small items of furniture ..... I told S2 that he had obviously agreed to these changes, but was it disturbing him to have them happening now ? He shook his head ..... I told him that if he went to the class in the clothes he wore last night (showered last night) he would still get to class on time or a fraction late .... then he spoke .....
said he wanted to go late. I asked him how late ? He said an hour ..... WH glowered, but shrugged his shoulders, clearly frustrated ..... I asked S2 whether he would just keep stalling until he was an hour late .... he said yes .... I asked him whether we could cut a deal and agree to 3/4 and hour late .... the thought for a minute, then said yes ...... WH and I left the room .....
I am trying to model for WH another way to deal with his son that is not bull-at-a-gate ..... hopefully now it will be a good morning and S2 will go to class ..... and in one piece, not shatters and not taking anything in ......
Now ..... back to getting ready for that coffee ...... 💜☕️💕
I think your doing exceptionally well @Faith-and-Hope, in extremely difficult circumstances. I also think WH is doing very well in very difficult circumstances, as I think your Son is. You have suceeded in doing the most important thing with your family - guiding them to not give up, to keep trying
I'm in awe of you XxX
Hello Dec
My day is okay, I've got no pain on the left side of my mouth and that's after a couple of years of it being there.
There's not a cloud in the sky here, it's a beautiful blue; a bit windy, a bit cool, but over-all a lovely day:)
{though over the next couple of weeks there will be sub-zero's when I'm tucked up in bed}
I was wondering, did you get your dentures through a government dentist? I have 1 'chew' tooth left on the bottom now, but can kind of imagine what it would cost through a private dentist - just the cost of an extraction shocked the socks off of me!
Sending you hugs, kisses and love
