S1 is married and living in his own home
@Owlunar .... it's S2 who is still at home ..., And yes, the e.d. is a controlling illness, and WH is affecting both S2 and D3 very much, but being young adults they need to develop their own coping strategies. In saying that, I did visit an e.d. counsellor recently who spelled out loud and clear that if things reach a level where we have to leave, it is me who needs to make the call over all of us, despite the kids being adult now.
They are old enough to leave home of their own accord to independent living, but while they are low on life skills owing to WH's illness and travel n such impeding their life skill lessons, and suffering situational depression, this would not work out well ..... especially as, from a cultural perspective, the expectation is that they will lead independent adult lives from the family home until they either marry, or develop career independence to a level where it is more appropriate for them to be living elsewhere, like interstate ..... leaving ahead of this milestone indicates, quite publicly, that the relationships are dysfunctional, and this is something WH wouldn't comprehend .... and would take sever offence to, creating enormous new strife.
Things were up and down while we were over east just now, but ended on the up, and S2 has made the commitment to see a uni counsellor as a part of getting his feet back under him and stabilising in terms of his uninattendance. The dr thinks getting his Vit D levels off the floor will help him recover from his social anxiety, but I don't think he has spelled out to the dr how bad it actually is ..... trusting to the process here, cos the Uni counsellor might recommend a psychologist yet .....
WH is still travelling away more than he is taking us with him, so within the mix I am sure things will progressively work themselves out, especially as the illness if physically progressive and, I believe, on the border of becoming obvious.
