@MJG017 @I do react differently than yiur husband, I tend to just completely withdraw. I know my partner finds it confusing and probably upsetting. It happened yesterday and I can tell she's concerned and she does ask what is wrong, but I still feel like I need to keep it to myself... maybe in some guilt ridden attempt to shield her from the worst of it. I feel bad because at the very least she must find it so confusing that my mood can change so quickly and seemingly out of nowhere. So I know I need to get better at talking about it with her and reading you post, and all the replies, this morning I think a bit of an apology in there somewhere as well is very well deserved for all she puts up with from me.
Thank you for sharing your experience. From the other side I can tell you just being honest with your partner and letting her know you are feeling low and want time to yourself would be so healing for her. She sounds like a very empathetic person who loves you so this will help her understand that you withdrawing is not about your relationship but it is just you needing time. I wish my husband did this more often.
A good thing is that a couple of days after I posted about his last meltdown he had another one but this time he stopped himself from continuing and managed to calm himself down while I walked away. I was surprised and gives me hope that in time if he continues practising he will get better at it. I don't think he will ever be able not to react to triggers but I hope that at least his reactions are smaller overtime.
Thank you for your support.
How are you today? What are you up to dear friend 🧡?
