Dear @PeppiPatty a part of me wants to believe that the world is a nice and fluffy place ... like a well trained house pet .... that part of me accepts the importance of having a compassionate non-judgemental community tone.
Without that ethic playing out in many of the forum posts and responses the value of the radical therapeutic concepts behind this forum would be undermined.
We need a FREE and FEARLESS space (a community music concept that I think also applies here.)
However anger is a legitimate human feeling (you have vented too ... fair enough ... sorry being personal ... but the capacity to vent as a "right" and a "resource" is a main difference for the more sane and the more privileged). My heart also goes out to those who are in so much pain and rage they can not prettify their anger ... but surely their struggle with negativity is precisely the area that a forum like this should and could address.
It is often fear of our own anger and rage that binds a lot of us up ... I defintiely saw it with my siblings though they were also very sensitive and compassionate people too ... being able to express anger in a non-hurtful manner is a CHALLENGE but one I would like the SANE community address.
Denial of anger is a HUGE DANGER. I have witnessed how disastrously passive-aggression has played out in long term relationships with the apparently - superficially anger-free person causing a great deal of harm. Also anger is an uncomfortable emotion for many people to feel or admit to.
Nobody (well most people) do not want to be seen as violent and it is through allowing regulated expression of anger that we may prevent violence from occurring .... allowing, listening, and acknowledging is necessary for healing rather than pretending it does not exist in us and outside of us.
It is a balance. ... perhaps another complex interactive dance ...one that can help us become the best humans we can be.
