New Post: Re: I Re: Living with Ourselves

[outlander]

oh also those pics are lovely @Sophia1 i would love to go for a walk along that bridge/walkway thingy

[Former-Member]

Like your idea of smiles @Sophia1, and good onya for pushing through the anxiety, depressionto venture out. It's hard but as you say - it helps in the long run. I have panic attacks sometimes in traffic but manage better these days, dont need to pull over much these days (plane's are another story). Hang in there xox 

[Owlunar]

Great smile @Former-Member - great post

It was distastor after disastor when my front teeth started breaking - they were crooked and the first upper denture was okay - but when I got a new one - that was a huge build in my self-confidence and it is a few years back now but I started to smile before I actually start speaking to people and it sets the tone well.

I never really bothered about my crooked teeth - it was a fact of life - if I had had orthodontic work done it would have been extensive and back then people didn't get braces for their kids teeth as they do now.

But having straight teeth is different and I my denture has what is called "minor imperfections" - this made a huge difference to my life and I forget about it now 

But smile - I think it was @Sophia1 who wrote that if you smile at someone that might be the only smile they get all day - one thing is true - if I smile at people I get smiles all day

Dec

oh yes btw - I used to have panic attacks when other people drove - I had forgotten that too but you reminded me about that - the only thing I could do about that was to learn to drive myself and now I am thinking about getting my licence again

All the best Lapses

[Owlunar]

Hi @outlander

Thanks - I do have a rather twisted sense of humour - sometimes it comes out in my writing

About the strange dream about my brother - we were told we were going to have a baby brother - we were teenagers at the time and I realised at the time that it wasn't going to happen and in later life I was told that my grandmother's health was failing at the time and my parents decided against it

I understood this and although I was disappointed I accepted it but I had never thought about my brother - he was not a happy person and this little brother who never happened must have upset him.

It's amazing how a dream can affect us at times - I think it was positive to get a different idea about my brother - we were close when we were younger - different events in life drove us apart - he never had a son and mine died - that little brother must have been something he really wanted

But the brother I grew up with is not my brother now - I miss who he was - I think the dream made me sad for a day or two

But I am feeling okay today - better than I have all week actually - it took until Friday to get here - maybe I had a touch of the Dreaded Lurgie - or whatever we have been passing around in the windy, winter weather

I think I heard that one of your abscesses had opened up - picked this week to do it - what fun I am sorry that happened - you could have done without it

All the best

Dec

[outlander]

Hi @Owlunar
Dont worry i have abit of a twisted sense of humour too,thats probably why i pick it up in your writing lol.

Wow Dec that both an emotional and realisation type of dream. Im not surprised you were down for a day or 2.
Im glad your doing ok today though, you may have had a viral thing. Its going around here too. Siblings mum and her bf had it and i think pops startig to get it now. Winter is almosy over though so should help with the 'bugs'.
I had/have 2 abcesses. One was a dental one that ive just finished antibiotics for and yep another breast abcess done that gross thing it done before. Yukk but will be alright in another day or 2.

Hugs for you, and can you give companion cat a pat for me too please. I quite like her too.

[Maggie]

@Sophia1 You are doing well aren't you. Good on you for pushing through depression and anxiety. I must admit, I'm never the first to smile when out, but always return one when given one. I'm really shy, so catching someone's eye is difficult. I seem to put my head down and full speed ahead. I'm mostly dodging people who seem to head straight for me.

I looked at a flat possibility today. It's all scary as the perfect decision doesn't exist. There are always pros and cons to everything. Sooooo, thinking and thinking.

Interesting you mentioned getting out in nature, I'm writing a song about that at the moment, something I do to quiet a wayward mind, when everything else fails.

@Owlunar I love a quirky sense of humour. Windy here also, not too cold though, blossom is out everywhere, Spring is just on the doorstep.

@outlander Hi there. I hope you are doing okish.

@Former-Member Always nice to bump into you.

[outlander]

@Maggie i know your doing it pretty rough atm. i dont know much of your situation but if you need to talk, your welcome to tag me

[eudemonism]

@Sophia1

It's good good have support which is close bye. That's what I've found anyway. Someone to visit? Someone to visit you?

I'm not real happy about being stuck in this place of mine. No shed, small back yard, not much rain water, poor heating and cooling, can't really do much with it and it does get to me.

Eude

[Sophia1]

hello all

and @Maggie lovely to see your name pop up and a huge welcome back...it doesn't matter if you are not one to give the smiles...you might notice others and they might notice you noticing...for me it has the same domino effect as sunshine...I know that you are smiling in your heart....that does emanate outwards...

yes you do have some serious decisions...I think that you will know when you find the one place that will fit...

incredible about the song though...I wish that I could do that....write songs...

@Owlunar lovely that you feel comfortable over here on this thread....I liked the way you described the feeling...your dream and thoughts about your brother were very meaningful for you...as though you were seeing things from his perspective and accepting that about him...you are sounding full of life...your trip ahead is better than any medicine..

@Former-Member you fit in as though you have been here all of the time...thank you for your kind words...I think that probably every single member of this forum doubts their being welcome at some stage when their world is so very tough in real life...you are not alone....it is good as dec mentioned that you write about those feelings though...

@outlander I read on the other thread that your physical health had taken another dive....I do hope that situation is rectified soon...I know that you have your therapy session in september....medical appointments become the larger part of our world at times and that in itself is so very draining...keep on remembering that you will get your road trip...

@Adge you have been quiet since reading of your news of another meeting with your new lady friend...I hope that you are managing otherwise...I imagine you are quite busy watching all of the birdlife at this time of year...I have noticed that we have a new addition in type of bird...they have long legs...greyish brown body colour...some yellow on their head and long beaks...? I remember them from years ago and have not seen them for a while...