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12-09-2016 11:50 AM
12-09-2016 11:50 AM
workplace bullying
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12-09-2016 04:13 PM
12-09-2016 04:13 PM
Re: workplace bullying
I am sorry to hear that you have been on the receiving end of workplace bullying. It is cruel and emotionally draining. Take a break from work if you can. Try to see the good things that you accomplish in your life. Focus on the small things. Book a long appointment with the GP and discuss your problems so they may refer you onto a mental health professional.
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12-09-2016 08:26 PM
12-09-2016 08:26 PM
Re: workplace bullying
It is not acceptable to have to deal with bullying and extra sad to lose a friendship and job over it. Yet it might be better to know that person was not really to be trusted, than to stay in a state of thrall and keep being put down. At least you are starting to see it as such and not turn the situation against yourself. Maybe talk about it here and with doctor and see what you can do to get your life on track.
Take care Apple
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14-09-2016 01:25 AM
14-09-2016 01:25 AM
Re: workplace bullying
Try to remind yourself that bullies are usuall cowards, and their poor behaviour is a reflection of themselves, not you. No-one has the right to make you feel bad.
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14-09-2016 02:13 AM
14-09-2016 02:13 AM
Re: workplace bullying
I used to fill in all the overnights and be on call. I would stay formal and congratulationed people, be somewhat supportive for them, do everything extra. I'm not one who thinks you should be congratulated for everything you do yet there were times when I worked a 17 hour shift then someone who does say an extra 4 hours would get acknowledgement. There was also a time I had this manager who would bar me off things but openly allow other people to use or do the things I was banned off using/doing, or would try argue with me over something that happened 2 weeks ago without being about them.
I remember asking this guy who worked here for 14 years why he didn't try be a manager, he said it was because the managers were rude and underappreciative- I used to sulk because I was convinced I got the worst of it. Yet what they do to staff is how treat each other by 10 fold.
The workplace isn't that great, like it's great they're a manager good on them but there's no reason for a manager to abuse their power. Like the rest of staff the managers are easily replaceable and need to learn to get off their high horse.
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14-09-2016 02:15 AM
14-09-2016 02:15 AM
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14-09-2016 03:52 AM
14-09-2016 03:52 AM
Re: workplace bullying
Funny - I'm intending to hand in my resignation this week, as soon as I finish my current project. And guess what? It is 100% due to my bullying female boss.
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14-09-2016 11:11 AM
14-09-2016 11:11 AM
Re: workplace bullying
I can totally relate to your experiences, folks. I worked for a large, male-dominated organisation (I'm female) for a long time and ended up leaving due to the cumulative effects of secondary trauma, unreasonable management, lack of support, harassment, and isolation. I had my condition accepted but not properly diagnosed or treated at the time.
Some ten years later, I've experienced long term poor management (unreasonable expectations, no communication, exclusion, devaluing, no support, scapegoating) which has reignited all the old wounds and resulted in a total breakdown. I felt it coming on for some time but had responsibilities and wanted to make sure I wouldn't cop further blame for anything that would fall through the cracks.
I've now been diagnosed with cPTSD, which it seems has been present and untreated for nearly 30 years. I've had to quit my job, haven't been able to work for nearly a year, and am not sure how I'll be able to return to my former profession at all. My original accepted claim, due to recent aggravation, has enabled me to get incapacity payments but I'm not sure how long that will last.
I've lost my job, career, several friends and relationships (been on my own supporting my child for 15 years now), and ability to enjoy my usual activities. Because I'm physically mobile and don't need someone to take care of my physical needs, my incapacity has only been rated at 10%. Funny, but it sure feels like a lot more!