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Hi @BlueBay,

It is so nice to hear you sounding so positive. It sounds like you have a super supportive team around you now, who you trust. I imagine that getting some of those physical issues sorted out like the thyroid and iron will super help. I have both of those issues too and getting them sorted out helped me to feel much less tired.

I hope you have a super nice holiday next week. Smiley Happy

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hi @BlueBay 

so good to hear from you. it does sound like your on the right track now. youve made quite a few changes and for the better which is fantastic.

your new gp and psych sound really supportive of you which is fantastic and to know you have future plans in place to continue getting better is fantastic. well done for getting the support you need and deserve. big hugs to you

i hope you enjoy your holiday as well, might be a nice change for you and a refresher.

getting all your health problems sorted is also very good as well and the fact youve been able to break down what you need to work on is also great and maybe doesnt sound so daunting for you to work through now

i havent got any experience in the intimacy department so im no help there but all the best with that, and maybe this year will start to pick up and be your year for improvements in every aspect of your life and relationships

 

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Thanks for the update @BlueBay !

It sounds like you have put in a lot of hard work! You should be proud of yourself!

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Thanks for the update @BlueBay , sooo proud of you HeartHeart

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Hi @BlueBay

 

It's good to see you for a short while before you fly up to the Gold Coast - and you have been doing a lot of hard work and it seems to be going well as much as you have been through the shreader - wow - what a three week stint is that

 

Intimacy - I hate to say this but I think I have forgotten - I suggest that you place no expectations on what might or might not happen - sometimes a long hug can be enough - neither of you should push yourselves - it's been a while

 

And how great that the therapist has broken down the issues into three sub-sets - it makes sense that way

 

Now take your holiday - and your anniversary - and enjoy yourselves without pushing things - I have never been to the Gold Coast - I am not sure if that would ever be on my short list - but I want you to enjoy it -

 

And before we know it you will be back - for me - out in the world I deal with your three weeks has gone past so fast - but not for you I am sure

 

All the best - and whatever happens in private - take it easy - and - oh yes - I thing I can suggest is a lubricant - after a period of abstinance it can get a bit dry there - and that is normal - hormonal changes cause that as does our age -

 

I have been thinking about you - but I also think that when you are in hospital sorting things out and have two therapists and your GP working with you - a break from the Forum is probably a good idea

 

Lots of hugs

 

Dec

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@BlueBay. I am so genuinely happy and excited for you.
This psychologist - by breaking down your 3 main areas - has made it sound 'easier' to separate what is anger, grief, etc. I really hope that this will lead to working through those emotions and finally finding a level of healing, that is not so painful.
Thank God for them finally finding a medication to stop those headaches. I think that will be a great help with your moods also. As when we are in physical pain - it is so much harder to deal with our emotional pain.
I wish you and your hubby a beautiful relaxing holiday.
Advice: intimacy does not need to be about sex or sexual contact.
It is kore about connecting on a personal level.Ask him some questions that he may not hhave spoken about for a long time. Eg: how he and his best mate met. Reminisce about the births of your children and their unique personalities when they were toddlers/ starting school. Praise him for bringing you a cuppa. If you feel comfortable, hold his hand while going for a walk.
Try to get to know each other again. Pretend you are back to your first few dates. See if you can remember what it felt like when you were first in love.
I'm very proud of you and all the work you have done. ♥♥♥

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Thankyou @utopia I'm trying very hard to be happy Xxoo
It's hard work

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💙🦋🐬🐚💕 @BlueBay ......

Mother's Day good wishes to you .....

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@BlueBay. Yes it is hard work. No pressure. No pressure to be intimate. No pressure to be happy.
I believe in you. I believe you will find some nice quiet times on your holiday. Be gentle with yourself.
A big comforting hug from me to you.
P.S.
I can't wait to find out after your daughters scan if I am right with my seeing a little Grandaughter for you. I do love to be right. Lol.
♥♥♡♡

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