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SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Re: SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Gee yes you've had a very rough day @Former-Member I'm so glad that you're still with us.

Your friend sounds like my Mum - my Mum rarely ever listens to a word that I say.

Every conversation is turned back onto her worst-case stories, & how terrible everything is for her.

I've just had a very draining conversation with my Mum - sure enough I barely got a word in, even though I've had more to deal with in recent weeks than she has.

So I can empathise. You needed to be heard & feel listened to, not hear other people's disaster stories...

Adge

Re: SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

thanks @Adge ❤

Re: SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Hi @Former-Member - how awful, glad you're OK. Could have been so much worse... glad that your church friend was there for you. Please take it easy and get yourself back to the hospital if you're concerned about anything. The important thing is that you're alright.. please get yourself some rest and take care.

Re: SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Thanks @Former-Member ❤

Re: SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

My stars @Former-Member - that sounds like chaos - I am sorry about your car but so glad you are reasonably okay - it could have been so much worse

 

I'm not surprised though - with your Mum taking her last breath any moment - that is enough of a stressor - I am so glad you didn't roll your car and that your birds are okay 

 

Phew

 

I think someone is trying to tell you something - or looking out for you in a big way - so glad of that - he will make sure the best happens for you with all of this happening

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you tonight and I will light the candle again

 

Dec💖

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Oh no @Former-Member ...... 😔💜💕

That is terrible !! I am so glad you are (relatively) okay, and the birds survived it all too, albeit with a bent cage.

I am so sorry to hear such awful news ..... you need r&r and gentle hugs ..... that decision has been made for you. You won’t be able to go just now.

The car looks intact. Perhaps it’s not a write-off, but it will be an inconvenience nonetheless. Will your son come down now, do you think ? With only three days until Christmas now .....

Thank God for your friend. Yes, it can be so hard when it’s all about them, but in a way it also relieves you of any commitment to conversation with someone like that ...... they are a conversation all by themselves.

Hugs n hugs @Former-Member ......

💜💜💜

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@Former-Member ....... 💗💕

Re: SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Oh my goodness @Former-Member How horrible!!!!!

After all that, your first worry was your birds Heart

I hope you're doing okay now and taking care of yourself.

Keep the heat packs / ice packs close (I never know which is meant to help more Smiley Frustrated)

Take care

Re: SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Thanks everyone. The assessors are away now 'till new year. My chatty friend took me back to the car to empty it out. Had that car 15yrs, never a high speed crash (accept hitting a big red too once, come to think of it - I couldn't open my door to get out then either). The car is 18yo & only worth 2-3k - likely less than cost of repairs which insurance co then 'write off' - time will tell, about a month I'm told.

Meanwhile I'm getting pressure from my my mum & bro4 to try fly down before Christmas. I felt annoyed they can't let go. Guess mums pretty bad and my photos don't prove how bad it was. Mum won't even answer my tx yet she rang my son & asked him to drive me, which of cause is not possible with his work.

I've just gone into some lala floating place where I don't care about anything anymore, even the thought I may never see my mum again. The dominoes are falling I think. I'm not wonder woman. I simply don't know when I can travel the one way 1200km trip to my toxic family. I'm too tired and sore. Quietly relieved actually, isn't that awful.

Re: SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Not awful @Former-Member ..... I’m sure I would be, in your shoes ......

Hugs ❣️

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