SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

[Former-Member]

Friend dropped off trailer, already full ... not sure if we should add a little more on, will be guided by them when they return for tip run. 

[Former-Member]

Is in his stuff for the tip Darcy?

@Smc, that's lovely reminder thank you. I know the Lord can give me peace & strength... and loves me and is in control... but I forget... get distracted... and need reminding (like a helpless toddler learning i walk grr), so thanks for reminders.

I'm so tired and overwhelmed today. Church friend came, did washing and dishes while I started packing. A blessing from god. But

Bro3 came over, criticised everything I do (he always has a superior way), went on about to he lazor beams, how he's ran out of money again, enough to buy asthma treatment... (gave him last lot a fortnight, and gave him $50 only Wednesday, he assumes things about me and when I correct him he talks over the top of me and causes me of 'not giving a sh#t about him or valuing his opinion...". yet he's spelling false assumptums about me & not listening to me and accuses me of interrupting him when he's interrupting me... And telling me off for not answering my phone when he rings, presuming I'm blocking him... Said he told my Bro4 to watch his back with me or I'll ring the cops and get them locked up for "nothing" because they have MH flag... If only he knew how I really feel.... He just left, I have headache. Sick of them.

Having another laydown to calm myself, I don't have time for this, their crap, I'm so tired

[Former-Member]

Yes stuff is for tip @Former-Member

Thinking especially of you.

[Appleblossom]

@Former-Member I think your 4 box idea is great. Simple clear and when you are ready you can go over the "maybe" box.

  Make sure you have a few important symbolic things, but try and do it quickly, without too much considering. This goes in that box ...etc

Been to the vet for bloods, my son swept up some glass and went to his dads. I had a lovely hour in the garden before the rain came.

Take Care All

[Smc]

Hey @Former-Member, I need reminding often enough myself.

At the moment I'm trying to work out if I'm falling into the "negative self talk" trap. It's tricky... there's a lot that's just genuinely hard, and dishonest self talk that doesn't acknowledge that is no good either. But at the same time I don't want to mentally back myself into a corner by only seeing the dark clouds and not the rainbows. (This afternoon's weather- a very pretty reminder. 🙂 )

Particularly I'm trying to see how I can make this next trip to my parents as positive as possible. Visiting them at the aged care home is hard- both emotionally, and the practical difficulty of getting there and back without a car. But at the same time its important. One day they won't be there to visit anymore.

Packing and sorting... we're planning on making another trip up by car to bring back a trailerload in the next school hols, so I'm thinking of focusing on getting together whatever I think will fit in the load, so that it's ready to go. That will mean when Hubby and younger daughter are there with me, we can focus on things like getting some of Dad's scrap metal stash to a merchant, and doing some heavy/bulky items sorting. The stuff that really needs to be a two person lift, or is just easier with two or three sets of hands (and brains. 😛 ).

And for mental health, we'll see if we can fit in a few outings too. Make a semi-holiday of it. One day will be taken up with Hubby demonstrating his trade at a historic festival in a nearby town. The organisers contacted him a while ago asking if he could attend, and we realised we could nicely fit it into a sorting trip.

[Former-Member]

Procrastinating here on 'big time' getting away - but stayed up till 2am sorting my room (big bag for charity, big bag rubbish) and locking in FileCab what I don't want bro's yo access. Bro4 has key to access dads stuff. Hope they don't anise the privilege. O woke today feeling crap, but pushing through. Georgia doesn't like the pet carer, wouldn't eat or go near her yesterday, kept hiding behind me. Not sure what to do. Never had an animal love me this much. Should I take her with me? About to pack bag, have longest shower and gogogo! (I hope, bog job ahead)

[Former-Member]

Oh, finally did my room, put a LOCKING filefiling cabinet in there and finally starting to feel LESS ANXIOUS (more in control) because I actually know where everything is now. The 4 drawers:
4 Memories
3 Gadgets
2 Important documents

1 stationary

My disrespectful brothers / overgrown ternage brothers )oops, did i say that) they're likely to go through everything so hopefully the locked file cab. and door will deter them enough & my thongs & info & privacy is maintained. 

Can't leave 'till tomorrow now but alls good to go this time. Taken x4 days. No interruptions today helped.

[Smc]

Hey @Former-Member, we'll be doing our travelling on the same day then. Pity I won't have internet while travelling, or we could share a virtual cuppa on the way.

I'm procrastinating a bit too... Got a few of the "before I leave" jobs done, have a little list of the ones still to do. Better get to it. The morning train won't wait for me.

[Shaz51]

Way to go @Former-Member xx

What happening @Smc 

[Smc]

@Shaz51, I'm heading off for another visiting/vacant house decluttering trip up to my parents' tomorrow. Train leaves our town at 7:30 ish, I need to wait a couple of hours for a connecting train in the big smoke, that will leave about midday and get to my parents' city late-ish afternoon.

I usually stay until Saturday, which of course is another full day's travel home, but I'm heading home Friday this time. I'm too close to the "running on empty" mark, and so I want to be going home before I get beyond useful.