SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

[Faith-and-Hope]

Thanks for letting me know @Former-Member.

I am out at moment, so i will contact the mods and get it taken down ...... and won't post Cat in the Hat again.

Appreciate you telling me ......

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[Former-Member]

No Rush @Faith-and-Hope (don't have to bother the mods) and just threads I'm on a lot. Thank you 💜

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I getcha with that sad feeling - I have a sad feeling myself right now - I get it - back-to-back grief issues with a birth date, adoption date and Christmas and totally get it with family being a pain-in-the-rear-end - aw - it really is enough

Through years and years I have noticed this over-whelming feeling does not go away - and I am really with you right now - I can't seem to get out of my own shadow which was okay on those days when we had storms down here but the sun is out and I still feeling bleak and now I can see my shadow and I can't get out of the dumps I am down in

One thing I can assure you with is that apart from the family issues the grief issues to get easier to deal with as the years pass - I wish I could say they go away completely - I think that I have learned to sit out the rough times because basically there is no choice about this kind of mind-set - or if there is it's deciding that it's okay to feel this way - and how I wish I could make it easier for you

The family stuff - and having your brother blast you on the phone that way - totally rotten behaviour on his behalf - it's like he is using his MI as an excuse but I don't think it's at all that easy - he probably has no idea that you are really battling with the Christmas thing

So sorry you feel that way my dear sweet Spirit Bear - sending lots of virtual hugs and I hope you are still on line - I can chat a bit if you want to - I really feel for you -

Dec

[Kurra]

Hi @Former-Member

A market stall is a fabulous idea. I think I'll go with that one after the Christmas season. That will give me time to load it all up. What sells, sells. If I do it on a Sunday, I can leave what's left over to the op shop the following day.

Ah hah! Make a bit of money and donate the rest! What a grand idea...... Thanks. 😀

Woohoo! Then it's all gone!!!! 😁

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member - I'm OK, thanks for asking. Just feeling a bit overwhelmed. Odd that I feel I got more done around the home when I had a job or maybe that's how things got so out of hand and now I'm reaping what I sowed. Maybe chronic procrastination or lack of motivation? I like the idea of two things a day. I might adopt that mantra. Have a good night and look after yourself.

[Former-Member]

Good Night @Former-Member, hello @Kurra, @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope, @Maggie 💜💜💜
@Owlunar, thank you for your heartfelt post, really helped 💙 - I did reply to it on a the 'Child Loss' thread to try keep this thread on topic, or near to. Its hard splitting oneself up like that. Its good you're on the forums, and nice to see others supporting you. NiNight 💜💜❤

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I love your new avatar - really love it

I'll catch up with you on the Child Loss thread

Hi @Adge

I read about the fence thing and one thing you can do is get your own quote/s about that - does the fence have to be Jarrah? Your neighbour might be able to pay for that but it's really hard for you - and what's wrong with ordinary palings after all?

I'm sorry about that expense Adge - I remember many years ago now when our neighbour wanted to replace a bad fence - we couldn't and put it off - telling our neighbour there was no way we could pay for that - I seem to recollect that we managed to put it off for years until we sold the house and that was one way out of it - not that I thought of this at the time

If I were you - which of course I am not - I would challenge the price - after all - it's your money too

And I bet the Wallet Wizard charges high interest - 

Life can be tough at times and right before Christmas - really tough

Thinking of both of you 

Dec

[Faith-and-Hope]

Love the new avatar too @Former-Member ..... ❣️

[Former-Member]

Thank you @Faith-and-Hope, sorta bringing Tawny back in a way, still much a part of me. Thanks for saying. Where can I catch up on your journey? Feels like I'm losing you again. Stay strong, and loving soul you are. 'Keep the faith' Think you're one of the only people left that can celebrate Tawney/Lapses progress. I was a mess for a long time. You were key in changing that for me. Money can't buy that. Thank you so much 💜

[Faith-and-Hope]

We have all helped each other @Former-Member -tawney .......glad you can revisit it all now. I think that's important.

Haven't been writing so much of my journey at the moment ...... just plateaued a bit with therapy and the interstate "move", so things won't really change for a while now I guess ..... a new and challenging plateau to be on ..... sigh ..... but it is what it is until it's not, until it's something else. Baby-stepping onward, if not yet upward.

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