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Life can be a Pain

Re: Life can be a Pain

@Owlunar We are shaped by all our experiences in life but we can also choose what to take on and what to leave behind us. You have certainly had your fair share of trauma, loss and issues to deal with but you are who you are because of them - a strong, capable, wise and caring person. Sometimes we take all the 'bad' and turn it into 'good' in our own lives because we learn from them and want life to be different for ourselves. You have done that, you know yourself and you know your boundaries - and that is all very positive. We can only do what we can with what we have but that does not mean we do not have to stop learning nor does it mean we have to accept the status quo. With every step forward we continue to walk the path we choose - we can look back to see where we hae been but focussing on where we are going brings with it new horizons to explore - keep exploring those Dec ...and keep being You because You are indeed a wonderful person to know Heart

 

I am sorry about your aunt - it is such a nasty illness (my neighbour died of pancreatic cancer a few months ago). The COVID situation and your own health are certainly massive factors in deciding what to do but I am sure you will make the right decision for you. Heart

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Thankyou @Zoe7 

 

That is a very insightful post and I thank you. I do have my boundaries and maintain them - my life has been better because of this and it is not easy.  

 

I doubt it would have the value it does if it was easy. It has been the loss, trauma and pain in my life that has enabled my life,

 

my daughter has sent mr a Christmas Card - it took a week to get here - we have been texting this morning and I have been invited for Christmas. I was sure that would be the case,

 

Thanks for the kind thought about my aunt - it must be unpleasant for her and lonely too. My uncle has dementia - I can't imagine what will happen to him when she passes. I can't think about that,

 

My cousins are overseas - still Australian citizens but ex-pats - they have families overseas and their employment

 

Eventually we will get used to living with COVID - until then life will be unpredictable and challenging

 

I am sending my love Zoe - and thank you for you support

 

Dec

 

 

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@Zoe7 @Shaz51 @BlueBay @Emelia8 @Anastasia 

 

Good morning my good friends - I went to sleep around 7.30pm and woke up at 5.00am - best sleep for ages - I needed that

 

I have been eating an almost normal diet - chicken, red meat and vegetables, fruit salad (canned) and yoghurt. I needed that too

 

I have an appointment for a health check today - I hardly need that right now  and I still have laryngitis so I don't feel like talking to the nurse about my weight and what I eat and remembering sentences etc - but I want to see my doctor. I know the clinic will be flat out busy this morning and maybe I will have to go through the rigamarole to see him - drat - but then - I can claim off with my laryngitis - it's getting better.

 

I have been having assisted showers - on Monday I undressed myself but still needed help to get my bra and shirt on over my shoulder - today - I do it alone. It easier if I sit and let my skin dry before I try these simple things to I will do it that way and probably manage. All my clothes are stretchy - and I already know there is not much an occupational therapist can tell me - after all - we all learn to manage some way or not - I have learned to manage.

 

Cutting up pumpkin now - that is a challenge - but I have learned how to get a decent - rather thin - slice off - my hand is unimpaired - just my shoulder.

 

I have told nurses about old ladies - some of us are very tough and I am one of them - I guess the time will come when I need to get some gadgets - that time is not yet

 

Anyway - this is my life and I will maintain my independence until the end even if I do need some assistance at times - I have a package with an agency to access this

 

I do appreciate the support from my friends here - and you are my on-line friends and I value all of you - even if I forget to tag - 

 

Thanks you - one and all

 

Dec

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Hello and hugs my second mum @Owlunar 

That was a good night's sleep 

How are you feeling now xx Yes having assisted help and still be independence 

My mum wants to keep do things herself too but it is funny as she comes put with things that sometimes I don't do enough and then other times say that she can do it 

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Hi @Shaz51 

 

Yes - I have had some good sleep over the last couple of nights - it feels good though I wake up very early - I read a lot

 

Your Mum - this is not easy for you and you have your own health issues - I would support your Mum to stay at home for as long as she could - my grandmother stayed with us until the last 3 months of her life - yes - they do strange things and that can seem funny but I know more - it's rough

 

I am supporting you on-line with your dialysis - it can't be easy - however - I am suprised you and Mr Shaz can't get onto the DSP - both of you have ill health and keep losing jobs through COVID and your health issues.

 

Keep plugging on with your requests for financial assistance - it's easy but I did it and it eventually worked and I was on the DSP - now the Aged Pension.

 

Like they say - It ain't easy being green - I'm here for you

 

Dec

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hello my @Owlunar xoxo

once you go on the dialysis , you go straight onto DSP 

but I am not there yet as the specialist is trying to postpone it as long as we can 

i am now on injections for my diabetes now , so my next checkup is in february 

mr shaz wants me to try DSP before i go on dialysis and he wants to be my carer 

well i can not drive so he does that already 

how is your pain today xoxo

mum is being very confusing today ,and voicing a lots of words , soo hard sometimes  taking a big breath @Former-Member 

we are having a holiday over christmas which will be nice 

@Emelia8@BlueBay@Zoe7 

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Hey @Shaz51, wow sounds like you have quite a lot going on. Hope you're able to get some quiet moments to yourself. Do you feel like it'd help to talk about what's going on with your mum? 

Here to listen Heart

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@Jynx Heart

thank you 

thinking mum has deteriaged a step in her dementia , last night i am sure she did not have a shower 

then the she would not have one 

having christmas lunch at my aunty this christmas and mum is not coming because of the steps ( mum is finding the steps too hard to go up and down now 

today she announced that we will have christmas lunch here at home and she is eating less and then this morning she put water into the jug while the jug was boiling 

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Oh I'm sorry @Shaz51  that is so hard. My maternal granddad had dementia before he passed and it was so, so hard on my mum, because it was so confusing and like, there's so much energy and effort required for that kind of care. 

 

Will you have to make some alternative plans or like, have two xmas lunches or something?

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Sure we can have a afternoon tea  at my mum on Christmas day  if anyone wants to come xxx @Jynx 

My other aunty and uncle can not go up the steps either , so they are coming to mum's 

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