Life can be a Pain

[Shaz51]

Hello @Owlunarxx

Thank you for sharing you story with me

sending you tender hugs my friend

I will never forget the night that the police banged on my door 10 years a go , and asked me if i was the daughter of my dad

the neighbours knew dad was going away for the weekend so they didn`t realise that when a friend came to on sunday night -- he was not home -- that is strange until they looked under the door and he was laying on the floor

The police got me and up to the hospital where dad was , and he was not good , he had a massive stroke

yep Life does go on 

then mum had a mini stoke that week

and then me i was carrying too much down the steps, fell and landed on my bum , but it has been ouch ever since

hugs my awesome friend

[Owlunar]

Hi @Shaz51

Thanks for your thoughts - I guess you have had some of the same about bad phone calls etc

I felt okay yesterday - Fridays are busy days for me and I just got up- 10.00am - today and feel okay

Perhaps writing about the worst wedding anniversary ever helped - yesterday was my anniversary - it was okay because if there was ever a good thing I did for myself it was to get out of my marriage - I didn't want to break my vows and I guess in the end I didn't - it was my husband who wanted to get divorced to remarry -

The weather is much cooler - March seemed to last a long time - even though I was away for a week - and we had some hot weather and thunder

I hope you are not too close to the floods and haven't had a power outage over the last few days -

Dec

[Owlunar]

I had a ride from hell from a a taxi driver yesterday - it's the worst thing that happened yesterday so it could be worse and I will be sending a formal complaint - but he drove like a lunatic

Like to fast then hitting the brake and not going where I was telling him -

My back hurts most days - Fridays are harder because I go shopping and get tense in the supermarket - yes - I have been picked up off the floor and carted off to hospital - something I never plan and do everything to avoid

Pain - thank goodness I was outside my doctor's clinic - I staggered inside and my doctor was ready to see me straight away - how lucky is that???????

He gave me and injection for the pain but it's still touch - my back I mean -

You don't have to be paranoid to know you are being picked on - or that your situation is not a good one

Still sore this morning - enough said

Dec

[Former-Member]

So sorry @Owlunar. I hate those rides in a bus too where they go too fast then hit the brakes hard. I'm always scared the brakes will fail. It was good fortune you were able to seek help straight away. I hope it will ease off a bit for you quickly.

I tried to write you a post for about three days straight and every time I couldn't send it because it was so negative. It's fair to say I've had a hard time trying to pull myself together to be some kind of human again. Please know you are in my thoughts. Sending hugs and hoping today is better. 💜🤗

[Faith-and-Hope]

Sorry to hear it @Owlunar ..... yeah it sucks .... I got an uber driver the other day who was snuffling and sneezing everywhere .... na blowing his nose into his hand and wiping it on his pants-leg .... 😳:face_with_rolling_eyes:😝

I had made the mistake of sitting in the front seat .... never again .... 😡

[BlueBay]

Oh no @Owlunar that is terrible. I would make a complaint too. You poor thing. Wish I could help you. Glad your doctor helped you. Pls take care. Sending you lots of love. ❤
BB cxxoooo

[Owlunar]

Hi @BlueBay@Faith-and-Hopeand @Former-Member

We have all had rides from hell it seems - because I don't drive anymore I need to use taxis and I use them a lot and I sit in the front seat - sitting on top of the rear wheel is a bad place for my spine

Eek - some drivers are really horrible but I have to say that I don't have much trouble - but I forget who it was who had the taxi driver rubbing his snotty hands on his trouser legs - I had one like that one - really bad cold and I was seeing a surgeon and I needed to go and wash my face and hands before I saw my surgeon and the receptionist gave me a clean hand towel to dry my face - yuk - horrible

I know you would help if you could BB - you have a lot on your plate - and Teej - I know it is hard to write something not negative - but you did here and I appreciate that - I appreciate everyone's kind thoughts

And as this day continues I am feeling okay - I think it was lucky that my doctor was ready to see me straight away and gave me that shot - it made a difference

But considering how much I use taxis I don't have that much trouble - but there has been trouble and it's unavoidable to run up against creeps at times

Thanks everyone

Dec

[Shaz51]

Oh no @Dec that is terrible

hello @BlueBay, @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member

how is today going x

we worked all this morning mowing lawns , as the last few day have been 37 degrees , very hot and still - they thought we were in for another cyclone , a bit cooler today

Got a big headache this afternoon , still getting over the bladder infection

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

Many thanks for your kind thoughts - it does sound as if you have more than the usual amount of insight into my past with my son - you have a troubled son yourself

Yes - you are right - we are here to guide them - not to insist on their behaviour. We are supposed to set certain standards during their early years - to give them instructions in life-behaviour - but once the reach different stages in their development they must make decisions for themselves - and at 16 young people reach a stage where they become legally responsible for some of their choices - and this can be very hards for us as parents

I couldn't find your message under Sleeping too much - so I thought I would right my answer here - I have been out of focus today - whether it's because I feel my memories so much through these months until the middle of July - or whether it's the weather or because we put the clocks back last night - I am never in focus for about a week after all of this

My son never understood the limits - never really understood borders - I believe along with ADHD and ADD and certain physical uncordination he was also BPD - really hard for him - I didn't understand his world

One thing time has taught me that I will feel like this off and on for the next few months - during the time he was in prison before he died - but I will pull out of it after that and be fine for the rest of the time - except for the ups-and-downs that occur in everyone's life

Thanks again for your message

Dec

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