Life can be a Pain

[Former-Member]

Saw Dr, got new prescription, started vomiting... now in A&E with reaction - inc nausea and vomiting, ?serotonin toxicity interaction with antidepressant - go figure. Definitely need specialist who knows what they're doing. Slow learner here Dec. Life's a pain!

[Faith-and-Hope]

Oh dear @Former-Member ..... 😔

[Former-Member]

Tank You @Faith-and-Hope, you're consistent in compassion. I'm home in my own bed now. Crisis over as quick as it came - all weird. Just gotta see if I can hold food down. Soon. Miss my cup of tea. Don't cope well alone when really crook. Dawn's first light here, and magpies talking - love that 🙂 Thanks for being here F&H 💜

[Faith-and-Hope]

They are the loneliest of times I think @Former-Member .... when we are unwell and there is no-one to care .....

💐💜💕💐💜💕💐

When my mum was really unwell, she didn't let me know how sick she was.  We were overseas, and she knew how ,u had it meant for me to have WH away from his family, and working out how emotionally controlling and vindictive they were .... except for his youngest brother.  It really showed him who cared the most genuinely about him.  The saddest part of that now is that the ocpd diagnosis shows that that is what has been ruling his family, and in his e.d. altered state of mind, is ruling him now as well.

My mum achieved us a bit of a honeymoon of awareness and disconnect from that family vortex for a while .... bless her .... and when I did become aware of how sick she was, and the European summer school holidays allowed us / me to spend her last two months by her bedside, her mind had shifted too, and she was delusional and not herself to quite a degree .... reminding me a lot of the way WH is now, only her ways were beneign where his are controlling and often vindictive in a way that was not characteristic of our relationship.  

While I can't turn back the clock and be there more for my mum, especially as she was aware of what was happening to her and that her mind would change along with it .... these forums have given me the opportunity to be there with others in their moments of isolation and illness, for a bit of company and concern if nothing else ...

Here's your tea m'lady......

[Owlunar]

Those are wonderful comments @Faith-and-Hope - all the time you are battling with WH and his ED+ disorder you mum was battling with her troubles and was stilll there for you - how great that must have been

So @Former-Member

I take it you got to a doctor and a pharmacy yesterday - and the prescription tablets did not go with your ADs - now I do have an idea that you need a pain specialist in a big way - wow - that was not a good thing to happen - but you did get to the hospital with the pain - 

But did this help? I think not - oh sheesh - I know it is hard to get chronic pain treated - really well - and it can only be treated - not likely to be cured - sometimes you need a rest - this I know really well

But living alone it is hard to get rest - I have trained the cat not to bother me over the years but I still have to get out of bed to get something to eat - and I hate hospitals - in a huge way.

If you can get the support of a pain clinic it can help - though pain clinics vary - I am sorry you are suffering so much but with the AD medication you are taking it would restrict what pain medication they can give you - also - there is medication you need the support of a pain specialist to get

It's not easy dealing with chronic pain - I started this journey in 1995 - oh boy

I'm another year older today - not in dept at least - and it is sunny this morning. I am going out for lunch with my family which will be really good - the hotel we are going to is really fantastic - I went there with my uncle and two aunts for a 50th wedding anniverary a few years back

All the best Lapses - btw - you have to really lean on your GP for a pain specialist and then you are likely to be on a waiting list.

I hate it that you are going through all of this

Dec          

[Faith-and-Hope]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY @Owlunar ..... ❣️💐🎂☕️🎶🎈🎁🎉🤗

[Owlunar]

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope

Dec☸💫

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

Severe pain can cause nausea and sweating - it can also cause headaches, overheating, exhaustion and a variety of other symptoms and can be a medical emergency

And it is hard to treat - I understand this

The mammogram - I could not twist my back at the lumbar spine area and one my left shoulder has had an acriminoplasty - and operation to remove bone that was damaged - big deal actually - and I was battling

The technician could not seem to understand me when I said - "Just tell me what to do and I will get there on my own" and she kept suggesting that she could stop and I could come back on a day when I was better - no - I told her that I had been fine until I was asked to twist where I could not - I guess most people have no understanding of such a situation and why should they?

I am not going back for more of this - the next time I am due for a breast examination I will have an ultrasound - 

I didn't even mind the breast compression - it was my lumbar spine that objected and I wonder that this has not been suggested - ultrasounds I mean - for people with back and/or shoulder problems

I am glad I didn't go when I had a dressing on my toe - the big post-surgical dressing - I would not have been able to handle that very well at all

Dec

[Former-Member]

Thanks for the lovely cup of tea Faith-and-Hope, very classy :ok_hand: And your suport yesterday (oops, tears again, why do I always cry when someone like you shows they care?). I do appreciate you being here, helping the brokenhearted and lonely as you do, even with all your own happenings, you do have a gift. And know when to gently pull back a little to recharge (even Jesus did that). Your a treasure 🙂

What you say about your mums last days and your in-laws & WH dynamics, and your mum's mental health decline... That sounds really hard - but how were you to know? And juggle so many balls at such a young age? You were there at the end and never lost contact with your mum, try not to feel bad (but know how we do when they have gone). I believe the spirit knows all, even when the body and mind can't. Your mum knows how much you love her. Gosh, it practically weeps from my gadget screen reading your words. Lovely 💝

My mum gets vindictive, and she hasn't got long, and today's her 83rd birthday. I wanna be there, but brother - not gonna happen this week (pitty after the hassels getting time off work). And she's got the flu, doesn't want visitors, even if I was up to it. God knows what he's doing.

I just had my first cuppa tea for the day and x1 dry toast. Tummy still squirmy but so far so good keeping it down. Back pain is niggling but walking so much better today, phew! ptl. Haven't been game to take any pills yet, probably should soon. To be honest - just wanna give up as i'm really so very tired of fighting it all, BUT, like I tell everyone

"don't make permanent decisions in the valley" 💜💕

[Former-Member]

Hiya @Owlunar, I got it that moving your back was the issue with the mammogram. I really do 'get' it, and I could be as bad as you in 10 years, ouchy. I agree that a total breast ultrasound is an excellent wtg instead of that vise, my clinic always does u/s after the mammograms anyway, well ever since I had suspicious limps years ago. I'm sure your GP would go along with an u/s. I refuse pap smears. And more recently refused PV exam by young gynae intern on my hystroscopy f/up. Told him "no, nothing's changed since the exam under GA 6wks ago" Trouble is he wrote in my file (I saw it), he wrote "refused exam" but not reason. I went to great lengths getting tests done under GA because of ptsd issues, but public system, different person each time... Some this are just not necessary and I think maybe a little more about training.

Hope you're holding up ok today @Owlunar?? Stay strong 🙂