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Just got home. 9 hours after leaving here.
Long day.

[Owlunar]

Yes @utopia

That is one hell of a long day and long waits and was that a public hospital appointment?

That system is sooooo broken

And yes - it was "nice" of her to cancel the debt I had no intention of paying - it's cheaper than sending out accounts with stickers on them month after month and threatening legal action - "nice" is such a flexible word - even writing we can make it sound catty - just putting it in quotes to make sure it sounds catty - there are times when "catty" is perfect.

I am a person of principle but sure I had checked that fee for failure to attend - oh yes - if I had been told that it would apply I would have attended the first consultation and never gone back - as it is I will be letting people know about her - never offend one client - it can go through a community like the flu.

But yeah - I do pay my bills and didn't want to go through that - and it was kinda rotten to get a letter anyway - cause it was - "you really do owe us that money but we are being nice and kind considering your circumstances and any misunderstanding so we will not be following it up"  eek

I am on the bottom rung tonight and it's raining buckets here tonight - tomorrow I will make an appointment with the next psychologist - I need to - I sent a letter and card express to my rellies in Hobart and my daughter is taking two weeks off work and I have suggested she take a holiday and I am seeing her on Sunday and I will make sure she has the money to have a few days away and I need to talk to my doctor about the BP tablets because every morning my BP is too low for me to start the day

I think that is enough - I am writing my miseries here tonight - sorry about that but I know you care

I understand about the cats too - we had an aggressive tomcat around here when my cat was young - twice her size and she would go for him - running belly to the ground spoiling for a fight - of course she didn't know she is a small cat. Luckily most of the cats around here behave 

It's time I went to bed

Dec

[utopia]

@Owlunar. That's why I put the word nice in ' '. To make sure that word sounded sarcastic. Lol.
Glad you posted the letter. Hopefully they will get in by Friday and contact you. I guess even a quick 2 minute ph call from them would be a relief. I hope they do call you.
Your poor daughter has really been through the ringer with her surgeries and pain. A short holiday break would be nice. A few days down the coast or up in the mountains. Fresh air. That could be good for her.
The cat fights I hear outside my bedroom window at night sound very frightening. If I had a cat I wouldn't want it to be outside with those aggressive cats.
I'm going back to bed now.

[Bella1978]

@utopia
Hi luv 😘 thought i would check in on your thread. I'm not up to sending a proper message. Got back from hospital not long ago. Mum had a really bad afternoon so am pretty shattered, I was in the firing line! Did u and ur mum have a nice mothers day? Xx

[utopia]

Hi @Bella1978. Yes. My son and his girlfriend and I went to mums for lunch. I brought fresh rolls and meats and salads and cheese.
Stayed for about an hour and a half. Had to leave to get girlfriend ready to catch afternoon train home. Only to find when we got back here to grab her bag, that they had decided she will catch the night train instead.
So out we go at 7pm for her to catch the train. Waiting waiting. Train cancelled. We only have 2 trains a day - afternoon and night. But train company will organise a bus. They hadn't organised it yet. They said it will be half an hour. Then an hour or a bit more. Knowing that it has to come from the border - there was no way it would get here in an hour. So dressed in garden work clothes, thongs and a dressing gown to keep me warm (yes I'm a snazzy dresser) - I ended up driving her home. Nit only her, but her brother as well who had been at his girlfriends house and was going to catch the same train home.
An hour and a half after leaving the house just to drop her at the station, my son and I got back home. Lol. What a night.
As you can guess, I'm still wide awake.
Sorry your mum was in a bad place today and that you copped it. She seems to go in cycles. Never managing more than two good days in a row. I wonder if the hospital staff have noticed. And I wonder if there is a pattern. Is there a particular nurse or staff member thst irritates her? Is she moody (sorry not the best word - but it's a 4.30am brain) after not sleeping all night? Is she getting calls from your sister?
Oh I wish they would keep testing her urine. There must be a reason for these short bouts of good and moody episodes.
Hopefully the new hospital and psychiatrist will sort that out soon for you and for her.
Sorry again that you had a rough day. When she's feeling better she will appreciate all that shopping that you did for her yesterday. She just wasn't able to today.
Sending my love. Hope your sleep is restful.

[Bella1978]

@utopia

Hey luv, how are you?

Sounds like you had a lovely mothers day lunch.

Ooh yes, you sound like a snazzy dresser indeed! Cute how you had the dressing gown on to keep you warm but you were wearing thongs 😛 haha! Sounds like an exhausting night for you after all that driving.

Yep, mum goes in cycles luv. She felt so betrayed by me yesterday, said I abandoned her in hospital and didn’t take her home when she wanted me to. I felt so guilty. She said she just wants to come home and sleep in her own bed, and I don’t blame her.

She was meant to be transferred today but her haemoglobin was so low, they had to give her an iron infusion. It just doesn’t seem to stop for her.

They retested her urine yesterday luv and it came back all fine. I tell the hospital staff (nurses and psych) how she is when Im there as the nurses don’t spend as much time with her as I do, so I see the highs and lows. There is no pattern either luv. my sister isn’t calling, and it isn’t a particular nurse. It is when she gets the idea in her head of coming home. she used to get irate when she was hungry during the night but the nurses didn’t have any food to give her. I gave them a container of biccies so she can have them so that problem settled now. I actually pack a little esky for her with some custard cause she loves it so much and she just keeps it in her room hehe

Well done on losing weight luv … I think the weight you lost, I gained 😛

That is absolutely disgusting what your ex psych did to you luv. would have been so scary for you. im glad that you have moved on from him. when I think of people in mum’s position but not having an advocate, it really scares me to think what happens to them. they are very vulnerable.

I can appreciate it would be very frustrating seeing your mum not put the heater on when she needs to. And its important she is comfortable and warm. Especially as she has the money to be able to turn the heater on. Our parents know how to worry us, don’t they??

Ooh I heard about that move, ‘Love Simon’… did you son and his girlfriend enjoy it?? I hope so. And yes it is very important that people are tolerant and inclusive of others. Great that you are instilling those values into your son.

How are you feeling this evening luv? ooh, did you son spoil you yesterday? If not, tell him I am very disappointed in him lol … have you been up to much today? xxxx

[utopia]

@Bella1978. Yes they all liked the movie.
My son got me an ornament - a pig. I love pigs.And a car ph charger. DDefinitely need that. His girlfriend gave me 2 boxes of chocolates on the Saturday. One box eaten on Saturday night. Lol.
Your poor mum. Thinking she was going home. Must be frustrating for her.
Did she like all her presents and shopping and the cake? Or was she too upset to enioy them? That must be hard for you when she gets like that.
Oh mothers. Love them. Be irritated by them. Just put the heater on. Mum had the heater on so high on mothers day. I was sweating. Lol. But at least she appeared warm. Because I'm peri menopause - I get hot flushes. Because her immune and nervous system is caput - she feels the cold. Chalk and cheese.
Doesn't happen often, but lucky me, I got the psychiatrist who lost the plot. Bloody glad it didn't happen to someone else who was sicker. I've since heard from a number of patients who used to see him, how over medicated they were. One lady said she was like a zombie. Her family came and took her out of the hospital - against the psychiatrist wishes & had her taken to another hospital for her to be weaned off those meds and put on 'proper' ones. Very scary stuff. But he's in the past now. Thank god. I've got a good psych now.
Very cold here this morning. Cloudy.
Yes I haven't swapped out of my summer thongs yet. I tend to be bare footed or wear thongs. I tell you, I'm a fashionista!!!!!!
Hope you have a nice day.

[Owlunar]

Hi @utopia

I am glad you had such a snazzy outfit for Mothers Day - I really love your outfit - ah -  my grand-daughter is very much like me and told me I needed new trousers - my brilliantly coloured undies are clearly visible through the fabric of those trousers so I guess I was pretty snazzy too - snazzy-dressers anonymous -

Life - be in it

Sometimes it becomes necessary to say the right thing - as my grand-daughter did with my transparent trousers - you do say the right thing too and I want you to know that - you are such a supportive person to some many people - I read a lot more than I answer here - I tend to answer with long messages that must wander around a bit but as I have been going through a few bad weeks you have been here for me all the time and I want to tell you I am here for you too - anytime

I'm just keeping in touch Utopia - I hope to be in and out a bit today - yesterday I had what I call a bad-pain day - really that means I know I am alive - cold mornings really make it hard work at times - so I have my eye out for you

And thinking of you

Dec

[utopia]

Thank you @Owlunar. I certainly put my foot in my mouth with BB. But I've sent her an apology. Should have chosen less harsh words. Hopefully she will forgive me.
Sorry you had such a painful day. Cold days and especially cold mornings play havoc with pain. And when it's bone deep - I guess deep heat and similar creams do nothing.
I'll be happy to be in Snazzy Dresses. Although it doesn't need to be anonymous. Everyone in town sees me dressed this way.
But if it is Snazzy Dresses Anonymous - I guess point one would be admitting you have a problem. I'm denying I have a problem. People that match their clothes with their lipstick and nail polish are the ones with the problem.
Although I should belong to I don't shower enough anonymous. Lol.
Thanks for keeping out an eye on me. Appreciate it.

[Owlunar]

Hi @utopia

It's hard to know what to write - I think it was okay but sometimes people can be fragile and I guess I care a whole lot and I understand 

Yes - I am watching over- that is my role as the friendly owl in the moon - I care a lot

Let's just be the snazzy dressers and do it openly - I wear dark colours most of the time and I have this pair of light coloured slacks - no idea they were so see-through

Thinking and caring Utopia

Dec