Am Not Coping

[Owlunar]

Hi @utopia

I am glad that you are giving GROW a chance - it worked for me so well - I hope this happens for you as well

One thing I didn't realise at the time but all these years later I have - we all have an influence on whatever group we attach ourselves too - your need and determination to have an alcohol-free life will have an impression on other people - this is a good thing - I just hope you can stick at it - I can't imagine what it is like for you but I know it is not easy

@Zoe7

I am glad that between us we are able to provide a guiding light for you -   I guess this light builds up as we use it - it's a pretty wonderful idea - the more we use something the better it gets.

I can't imagine what things are like for you either - with so much trauma in your life - I am thinking of you too

Dec

[Zoe7]

@Owlunar My 'situation' is no worse or no better than anyone else here - just different. No matter what we are dealing with - how small or big we think it is - we are all affected. What is consistent for all of us is that we all find it difficult to 'cope' at times with whatever we are dealing with - some days are bad, some are even worse - but we all have a general understanding (empathy) for each others' struggles - and knowing that is the greatest benefit of having the forum family around us - even when we can't relate to circumstances we can relate to the situation - that is the light that we can all hold on to 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Well said @Zoe7 ..... 🤗💐 ...: here for each other ..... ❣️

[Owlunar]

I understand @Zoe7

One good thing about getting older is we have the benefit of hind-sight - and it is hard to find good things about getting older - but that is definitely on the short list

When I was going through the hell my life was so long ago now - there were ordinary people who helped me in such different ways - things I would not thought of - I would pray for a miracle and there were times when one happened - right then - wow

But for these people I wonder how I would have managed - in fact - I will tell a story - I had a mylogram and I was waiting in the foyer of the hospital - on a trolley - without my glasses - and a lady walked toward me and for a short while I thought she was my mother - she did look like my mother

She wasn't - but she was a motherly person - and for a person as afraid as I was when I first hurt my spine this was something pretty special - a complete stranger - about my age now I guess - stopped and talked with me and understood my need for my mother - who had no idea how bad my spine was -

How wonderful this was

So now - as I have more white hair and partial dentures - and creaks and clicks in my joints - I do remember when my life was a living nightmare - and how people just appeared at times - strangers - who really cared

So you would not know me nor would I know you if we were beside each other on public transport or wherever - but I would talk to you - you could be me in the past and I would be one of those strangers

Thanks for letting me know how we help - that is a wonderful thing to share

Dec

[Zoe7]

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Thank you @Zoe7 ..... 😄💐💕💜

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