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Am Not Coping

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hi @Faith-and-Hope thank you 🙂 🙂

 

hi @Zoe7 yes im amazed at the amount of responses! wow and not in a bad way either- these are the first forums ive been on so all this is new to me but seems great 🙂

seems like a pretty cool thread  and thank you for welcoming me into the forums too 🙂 🙂

 

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Well if this is the first forum you have been on then I must say you have chosen well lol @unknown

This is also the first I have ever been on and it really is the most wonderfully caring and supportive community here. It is a bit like we have 2 families - our real life family and our forum family (and often our forum family is the best one!!!!!!)

On this thread we have developed our own little 'corner' of the world that we call the Octagaonal Room. So if you see anyone referring to this room you know it is this thread.  It started out as a place with a few corners for people to come and hide away in safety and soon needed to expand into an octagonal shape to accomodate all the people that needed a safe corner - we also have an outside area, some virtual cats lying around and a 'vitual' rainbow path to another thread.

There is a purple corner, a gelato corner, a garden corner (and heaps more)... but probably the most important for you to need to know about is the quiet corner that is solely for @Phoenix_Rising (she is our little turtle friend). This is a very special corner as it is her safe place to come where she can hide away and just BE - she doesn't have to say anything - she will often simply wave as she enters, put out the Do Not Disturb sign and wave as she leaves. The only rule we have in the Octagonal Room is - STAY OUT OF LITTLE TURTLE'S CORNER!

We sometimes watch stupid reality tv together and comment along with it for some laughs.

It really is an 'anything goes' sort of place and everyone is welcome.

Tell me something about yourself - what do you like to do? Do you have any pets? What is your fav colour? etc. etc.

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@Zoe7. Just started to type this post and my mum rings. Never a quick chat. No. She likes to talk forever!
MaFS was not a stupid show. That's where I met the loves of my life - Simon and Alene.
Fell asleep at 6am. Slept through til 5.30 pm. Mum took my son to his soccer game. I'm really not parenting at the moment. Awful to say, but I wish I didn't have a kid at the moment. It's just too hard to look after myself let alone someone who needs me. So all that negative self talk about being a shite parent is back playing in my head.
Am just about to cook us some dinner. Although I'd rather just eat a pkt of chips and go back to bed

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Please accept my apologies @utopia - I had a momentary brain fade and forgot about your special relationship with Simon and Alene - soooooooo sorry re: stupid reality tv comment - I stand corrected (again)!! LOL

Don't be so hard on yourself my little cocky friend - we all have moments when we need to rely on others (some more than others) so accept the help at the moment with your son as you need to do what you need to do to care for yourself first so you can then care for your son. You are not a shite parent - just one that needs a little support at the moment Heart

Even though you feel like chips you are cooking dinner - that is a positive! What are we having tonight?

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Hello @unknown, nice to meet you. I heard @Zoe7 mention my name so I thought I'd pop by. I haven't been in here too much lately as I seem to have been dividing my time between hanging out in a nest sitting with a Forumite in her muddle, and dealing with gigantic waves of my own muddle. The octagonal room is a super nice place to be though. There's nothing very interesting to know about me, I'm just your regular aspie sea turtle with borderline personality disorder. Smiley Happy I hope you find the forums as helpful as I have.

@utopia I have been following along with your story, but haven't really had a chance to chat with you for a while. Did I read somewhere that you have got a reprieve from your job searching requirements for centrelink? I don't know how you have coped with having to go through all that circus - and having to drive so far to do it! I am on the DSP and thus have none of those obligations. However, I voluntarily engaged with a couple of disability employment services a few years ago to try and get some help with my employment puzzle and it was HORRENDOUS. I had no idea how dysfunctional the whole centrelink and job network debarcle was until I experienced it first-hand. Every time I read about you having to drive for miles for a pointless 15 minute appointment I really really feel for you.

Anyway, I'm now going to jump on the rainbow slide and check in at the nest. I super love that you set up that rainbow @Zoe7. Off I go - wheeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Smiley Very Happy

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yes the forums do seem to be really great @Zoe7 pretty happy that i came here 🙂

haha lol that sound like a plan @Phoenix_Rising ill stay out of your corner  and nice to meet you also 🙂

wow i think you might need to change the name to a shape with more corners by the sounds of it!

haha got to looooveee reality tv god they have some stupid things on there.

there isnt really much to tell about me im in my 20s my favourite colour is purple and also turqoise love those colours, umm i do have pets i own a little lap dog- a chuhowa or however the heck you spell it lol  but shes cute shes only 2 but we rescued her as a puppy as she was mistreated so we took her in. what sort of things i like to do i like to bike ride and hang out with friends and also music . love love music esp the modern pop type of songs 🙂

whats sort of stuff do you like to do? whats your favourite colour? do you ahve any pets?

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Hiya @unknown I have to head off for a while but just wanted to let you know that I will reply to your post a little later - my favourite colour in turquoise btw - followed by purple - spooky!!!

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ooh spooky @Zoe7 

thats no problems im going to head off soon for the night too 🙂 so if i dont reply tonight ill reply tomorrow 🙂

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@Zoe7. Minced beef with vegies and a Kumar sauce over rice. Was ok. Another 20 minute ph call with mum. Lol.
I know it's good to have mum help with my son. But in this state, all I can hear are the shoulds. Should be doing this. Should be doing that. I get a reprieve when I'm asleep or absorbed in meaningless tv or a book. It's my way of coping at the moment.
Thank you @Phoenix_Rising. Yes it's good to have a months reprieve from centrelink job search. And I have the double whammy of two employment agencies. One for Centrelink and one for Workcover. Both in the big town. Rarely manage to coordinate their appointment times for the same day. As I have an 'injury' - centrelink only require me to apply for 10 jobs a month - instead of the 30 jobs other centrelink 'clients' have to apply for. I live in a small town. There aren't even 10 jobs a year here. Add in my alergies to certain chemicals and I'm restricted to only certain occupations. Then I need a safe place for my mental health. Bloody frustrating. Oh this is turning into a big whinge. That wasn't my plan.
I hope you are okay today and your waves have become gentle.
Hugs for you both. ♥♥

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Popping past to say hi @Zoe7. I've noticed you venturing beyond here more and it's lovely to see you out and about. You offer so much to others. Hope you sleep well tonight.

@utopia - happy to be an ear if you ever want an extra one to vent about c-link with. That system drives me (there is no appropriate word I can think of to insert here being we are in a mental health forum haha). I teeter somewhere between wanting to break things and wanting to just give up, almost every time I have to deal with it. It's infuriating and unfair. Hugs to you.

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