Am Not Coping

[Zoe7]

I definitely see the dilemma here - one drives the other - that is his anxiety will rise with the added pressure from Mr. F&H and that sets him baack within himself even further. There is a time to push and a time to let oneself know the consequences from within of not getting things done - S2 needs to know those things both from within himself and doesn't need the extra external pressure.

He is making positive forward steps though @Faith-and-Hope and that is something you should be very proud of - I can not imagine what he went through being so invalidated from the last uni - reminds me very much of the pdoc in our DBT sessions - she does not seem to grasp the concept of empathy in that context at all and rather than validating everyone's opions and experiences she seems more to want to question them - not pleasant when she does that to anyone. I think she tries to understand but maybe she just has not had enough experience in this field yet to do that.

[oceangirl]

I've had a rough day and unlike me I have been asleep most of the day. Last night I asked my IVF specialist to fit me in because I needed support. He has made an appointment tomorrow afternoon. 

[Former-Member]

Hey! @Zoe7

Thanks for including me earlier. 

Ive been feeling too flat to say anything, sorry. 

Glad to read that the pain meds are working and that DBT was a bit easier today. 

💜🦋🌷🌸

[Zoe7]

Your like is all that was needed Hon - sorry you are feeling flat - I understand that with everything going on for you that you can only be here when you are feeling up to it and that is more than okay - just remember we are here for you too @Former-Member 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @oceangirl ....

My Like is “I’m hearing you”.

I take it this is to do with hormones if you need the IVF specialist ?

So sorry to hear you are feeling unwell with it all .... uni stress too maybe ?

Hi @Zoe7 @Former-Member .... I’m back ....

[Zoe7]

Hi Hon - how was dinner? Did you have something yummy? @Faith-and-Hope

[Former-Member]

Hello hello hello there @Faith-and-Hope 👋🐬💖

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Zoe7 .....

It was fish and salad again .... 😏 .... but I had a glass of something with it that might help me keep to pumpkin hour tonight .....

With S2 The invalidation wasn’t just at uni @Zoe7 .... he was receiving the same message thundered at him at home as well under circumstances I won’t describe here .... and it was reverberating inside him, awakening a familial mi disorder .... It was a “perfect storm”.  While I understood the intensity of the home issue, and was worried for him and trying to seek help as hard and fast as I could, I was completely blindsided by the uni and genetics issues, as was he ..... and help could not be found until he crashed.

D3 had the home thing, the genetic thing, and the dislocation of her knees created a school thing .... so the perfect storm situation overtook her as well, but with the school counsellor and staff supporting her situation, she made it through at the time, carrying forward anger issues that she is working through with a counsellor now.

It might yet be the same for mr ..... although no blindsiding for us with this one .....can see all the elements continuing to build.

[Faith-and-Hope]

👋🤗💕 @Former-Member .....

How are you doing now @oceangirl ?  Are you still sleepy after your long sleeps today ?

[Zoe7]

That perfect storm gets many of us when we least expect it @Faith-and-Hope

I am sorry Hon but I have reached my limit for tonight - can barely keep my eyes open now. I will have to say goodnight but before I do that I wanted to thank you for our earlier chat - and for your posts tonight - it has been great to catch up with you a bit more. I hope to be able to come on in the morning but it will depend how I sleep tonight ...in the meantime I hope you can have an earlier night than you have been having and you sleep soundly.

Goodnight my angel @Faith-and-Hope and sweet @Former-Member