Lived Experience Forum

[Kurra]

No @Former-Member. I discovered this as a teenager. It can be hard to stick to my standards and values sometimes but I feel much worse if I don't because I know that I've let myself down. Mind you I don't stick to these rigidly. How far to compromise can only be assessed on a case by case basis. If you have questions please ask. I don't really think it matters at what age we develop these things. In fact you probably already have but haven't yet identified them as such. 🎶💕

[Faith-and-Hope]

I agree with what @Kurra just said @Former-Member .... you write with values, it's just your standards can't always be met or upheld under your current circumstances.

That's what I just wrote about myself on the other thread .... I have had to let go of my standards and just exist in this current chaos until the storm settles and I can start to put my standards back in order .... and there has been one storm after another for a very long time .... I fought harder for my standards previously but I am emotionally too exhausted for that at the moment .... so I am drifting on our family tides most of the time for now, just paddling when I have to or want to ....

Teens do that to a household anyway .... it's just degrees that make the difference .... and there are many other things that add degrees.  I'm guessing @Kurra would agree.

I have perfectionist tendencies, which I have to lay aside under these circumstances .... but perhaps that's not a bad thing either.    I have become more discerning about how and when and why to pursue excellence ....and it doesn't have to be in everything all the time.

i hope this helps .... ❤️