Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

[Former-Member]

Oh dear @Shaz51 not one of those days where if it not one thing it is another.

[Former-Member]

Sigh ... It never rains, but it pours. As the old saying goes. @Shaz51

Any chance the Dr can keep your Mum in hospital a bit longer, to at least allow you to organise some support when she gets home again? Its natural she wants to go home .. They all do, dont they? My dad and mum the same. 

What support is already in place, or can easily be put in place for her at home? And also, I might add, for you.

Sorry Mr Shaz is not feeling up to eating tonight. Would he eat a sandwich or something if you made one for him?

Sherry 🌺

[Shaz51]

Do you and Mr Shaz usually get on with his sister? -- yes @Determined, @Former-Member, she can be a bit bossy but she is ok and she likes me -- seen someone she does not like

she does not work and she nearly does everything for her mum , my MIL

yes my SIL has some strange ideas and I have been in her bad books before

awwwwww @Former-Member, I went to wash up to get it out of me and mr shaz came and dried up and put everything away awwwwwwwww

[Shaz51]

hello @Former-Member

yes the doctor is going to keep mum in hospital to  see how she goes with eating proper food

the doctor wants her to use a walker and a wheelie at home  but mum will not use them or a alert alarm either

[Shaz51]

I think our first day back to work is catching up with us , bed early i think @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Determined, @Jacques. @Owlunar

cuppa first xxxx

[Former-Member]

Yes, I know that mentality @Shaz51 from both my parents and my hubby. Somehow they seem of the misguided impression that they dont want to bother anyone? But by refusing these potentially life saving aids they are doing exactly that .. worrying us! Hubby refuses to use a walker. Parents refuse home nursing for even the bare basics such as ensuring basic hygiene. Ggrrr ..

Sounds like your Mum is developing a dependence on you Shaz. Thats really hard, given you work and have other caring duties. Please remember self care, especially now while you have so many added pressures on you. It should go without saying that you also have serious physical health issues which need careful care. Please do not neglect your own needs during this difficult and stressful time.

Hugs to you and loving care.

Sherry 💕💕

[Shaz51]

I totaaly agree my @Former-Member

Trying to get that balance is hard and also getting lots of adice and what I should do from my cousins and aunties

aching tonight big time

sending you tender hugs @Former-Member

I think it is just building up a bit too much ,

[Jacques]

hi @Shaz51 im so sorry to hear about your mum, it must be so hard for her to go from being independant to having to be looked after, it is challenging for all of us, hugs my friend and hugs to your mum. 

im glad you are having an early night, i hope you and Mr Shaz51 feel better in the morning

[Former-Member]

Good morning @Shaz51 and others here too.

I hope you awoke this morning feeling a little more positive and less overwhelmed by all thats happening around you.

Remember to take the time to consciously breathe throughout today.  Thinking of you lovely.

Sherry 

[Sophia1]

Hello @Shaz51

I am so sorry that I missed your tag yesterday...I am not on the forums as much these days..

trying to utitlise self-care...

you know all about how difficult that is to put into practice when used to putting everyone else first..

I think everyone supporting you understands only too well themselves within their own situations..

I am not sure if I have mentioned this before ..your mother's doctor or doctor assessing her whilst in hospital may be able to refer your mother for an aged care assessment which determines the care and level of care your mother needs be it at home or in a nursing home.

I do hope that you are well supported by the staff at the hospital in finding solutions that will help not only ongoing care for your mum ...also yourself..

Bless Mr Shaz for drying the dishes 💜